Harshness

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Harshness in relationships shows inner turmoil and anger. It can also demonstrate domineering traits. It flags reasons to be careful and cautious.

[guest587]

I have a domineering sister. It has created quite the separation. We try to be civil, and at times I find myself in disagreement with her energy. Yet I must find a way, and this means even surrendering some of my preferred comforts and chastising my own Ego in order to provide a better service when the time calls for it. I failed recently with our most recent exchange. I allowed her harshness to disturb me during what was meant to be a family game. This means I lost sight of the greater picture. At times what we call discomfort is really two conflicting ego's... I don't have any solutions other than to turn to God for help and guidance. Prayer, patience and compassion.

[Jitendra Hydonus]

I have a domineering sister. It has created quite the separation. We try to be civil, and at times I find myself in disagreement with her energy. Yet I must find a way, and this means even surrendering some of my preferred comforts and chastising my own Ego in order to provide a better service when the time calls for it. I failed recently with our most recent exchange. I allowed her harshness to disturb me during what was meant to be a family game. This means I lost sight of the greater picture. At times what we call discomfort is really two conflicting ego's... I don't have any solutions other than to turn to God for help and guidance. Prayer, patience and compassion.

Quite often you speak in vague generalities Eric which makes it challenging to respond to your given situation. And perhaps you are not even looking for a response. We have noticed parallel lines occurring with similar life lessons in the past. Most likely because of prayers for one another and others here on the site. I have noticed harsh responses from friends and have found that at times when I was able to ignore them I found the supportive help from a divine source in attempting to develop weak character qualities and abilities in my own personality. I’m not responsible for the karma or the ego problems of others. Only my own.

I have found it is important to recognize that most people do not have a guru and have not even begun the journey that we have to transform our egos into a higher vibration so we are talking about many life lessons surrounded in misery for them until they find their given. We are fortunate to be on the path with the blessings of spiritual discipline and wisdom in all our life experiences given by the Masters.

[guest587]

Thanks Steve. I agree.

My Sister and I got into it again. She moved back in and brought her troubles with her. She started a fight with me one morning and it went from ugly to worse. After being antagonized I pushed her away form me and yelled leave me alone. No one behaved correctly. Now she's moving out, and for a while I felt she was trying to blame me. She gives me the cold shoulder in person but ask me for favors over the phone if it means providing for her. She isn't asking for money, she's just asking for healthy food. What's a Brother supposed to do? I don't think she's trying to take advantage. And I don't think she means ill, even though she can be quite vindictive and methodical in her reproach.

It has gotten to the point where I pray to God to be free from toxic thoughts, even while others carry on in harboring their own. I had to tell her this morning I am no longer her emotional hostage. I believe I've been taking on a lot of the emotional baggage without either of us realizing to what extent, as she tends to prioritize the atmosphere to revolve around her drama. I think if we're going to live together, boundaries need to be respected. But if she believes moving out is best, that's okay too.

You've said it best, we shouldn't be responsible for the karma or ego problems of others. Only our own. And damn I am put through the ringer. A Cancer and a Taurus on the family level can be quite a nasty mix let me tell you.

But it's okay... Because she does have a lot of Love... And I think we're moving through this. Even if it's not at my desired pace. Which I think is teaching me something about patience and learning how to appropriately administer my own energies as cocreator. Sorry for sharing such personal affairs publicly... You said I speak in vague generalities- it's funny, sometimes I feel the same about you. So I tried speaking more directly... And if people find parallels then all the better.

I really think there's a lot of shaking up happening with everyone's Ego's during this time. Yes... We are blessed to have received spiritual disciplines and wisdoms in this lifetime. And I hope I am able to exercise them correctly and not feel the need to make a point.

Sometimes choosing Love means letting go and allowing others to go through their drama, free of our ideas about it. And we should let go lest we wish to fester alongside and become emotionally hijacked.

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Make enemies into friends

Watch your words it could mark your end.

This little tongue spits fire

But kinder words can break ice

Protect what you have

With the kindness that you bare.

Look into a glass filled with sweetness

Refreshing care.

Sip and drink

A few pleasures for you

It would be nice

See you once again

Someday… somewhere

~Hydonus