I find that women are often right. They understand the earth more, where men are more interested in the "rules of the game" and abstractions. Men keep their heads in the clouds more. Women don't give a damn about your rules. Women realize that rules are only a means not an end. It doesn't matter if you do everything "right" with a women. It only matters how real your heart is, how honest your feelings with them are. If you are putting on, they always know.
http://www.amazon.com/In-Different-Voice-Psychological-Development/dp/B0025J3YDY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1407943245&sr=8-1&keywords=in+a+different+voiceIn this book, she points out the differences between the games little girls play from little boys. Little girls games are always relationship based, with changeable rules. Mens games always have strictly defined rules and referees. For women, rules only serve to nurture the relationship aspect and connections between individuals. For boys, rules are absolutes that are unbendable.
Sometimes rules can be compassionate. I have a rule for myself: i will always speak to someone and be friendly. In my experience men usually remain friends longer. Not saying this is true for everyone. Just my experience. It would be more difficult for you to make that observation since you are much younger swami. I have found that for instance endurance and length of friendship and love are good rules to play by for myself. As you say perhaps it is true women do not go by rules as much but this can also make people fickle and not dependable for any length of time. Look at how many females that are members here... they were supportive at one time.
Comet is an exception she has been here through everything beautifying spiritual portal. Most people do things out of convienence and fad. Take for instance Facebook or Walmart. Most people do not think of the ethical considerations.
They do things because it is popular to do.... not even considering the ultimate outcome for themselves and others.
There is no real 'heart' in all this. It is opportunist convienience. It would be nice to see some character in ourselves.
Can't answer the idea 'if you are putting on they will know' because I do not recall putting on so I could find out. I believe my mother was best at seeing thru that charade. Had a couple psychic girl friends but I was honest with them so never had to find out if they could see thru any deceptions.
I believe it is good to have your head up high in the clouds as long as your feet are on strong footing. The Master's are helping us keep our feet welll placed on the earth.
I have found women generally speaking are more supportive then men but if you cross them or somehow offend them watch out! You may not get a second chance. Men don't seem to take it soooo sensitively.
