Transgenderism

[Jitendra Hydonus]

I made a post here and I think it was deleted. Why all the sneakiness? I just asked if Steve was Central Scrutinizer?

No I am not!

Okay, thanks for your honesty Steve. I know you take on a few personas here and you and Central Scrutinizer seem pretty similar. My only other thought is he is Uwe.

I take on a few personalities ? I guess this all about my multiple personalities. And that you have always been only one. Sorry that the confusion arises in my head…..I just feel you need to rethink what your saying.

Look Eric you can bring up case studies to attempt to prove your point. But I’ve actually had friends that have gone through the pain of social chastisement on the issue and have attempted to be friends with them
and support them on their decisions. Have you done that?

Your last entry only proves a point I’ve attempted to make many times on this site and that is that people feel they have the right to determine the morality of others and will you violence to enforce and perpetrate it. Exactly what Trump and his gang that attempted to stop the election results and hijack the government.

People like to be derogatory about socialism by pointing to the Nazi movement but refuse to look at the success of it in the Scandinavian nations and in monastic life. Really it is tantamount to calling Putin’s elections free elections, which can hardly be considered to be true. As will also be the result of any make believe election results of the MAGA movement.

Eric you have ventured far off the subject in your last couple of posts with attempting to make out the identity of other  members and bringing up violent political movements. I attempted to respond to some of those diversions here.

[tides2dust]

Steve, it sounds like you're getting offended by the material shared.
1) You assume multiple personas on the portal- beatrice lancaster, 10 moods of dr kook, sisters of inquisition, etc. etc.

So is it wrong for me to ask if you are also Central Scrutinizer when I see a similarity? Why, also, would you delete my post for asking the question?

2) Did you read that I have tried dating a trans person? Their grandmother decided to give them hormones at the age of 2. Was it the childs choice to take hormones? More importantly, should a parent listen to a child and start giving them hormonal medicine at the cost of their bodies endocrine system? Giving a 2 year old hormones sounds like attempted murder. 

I would feel more comfortable hearing what you have to say once you watch this video- it tells me you would take the time to understand what I'm trying to relay.
Until then, you can comment as you are, but you aren't really commenting on anything other than the narrative in your head. That's how it appears.

Please watch this film and tell me if you better understand my opinions and concerns.
https://rumble.com/v3u8x97-no-way-back-the-reality-of-lgbtqia-gender-affirming-carereloaded-feb-18-202.html

Detransitioners Michelle, Laura, Cat, David, Joel and Abel tell the stories of their gender distress, transgender medicalization, and subsequent detransition. Without diagnostic clarity or mental health evaluations, their doctors quickly affirmed them as 'transgender,' and mindlessly ushered them along the path of medical transition. (The 'gender-affirming care' is the only treatment recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics.) These young people were harmed irrevocably by the doctors they trusted. AFFIRMATION GENERATION demonstrates how the 'one-size-fits-all' medicalization – the 'gender-affirming care' – has failed these patients.

The stories of the detransitioners are examined by twelve leading experts with decades of clinical practice treating gender-distressed patients: psychotherapists Lisa Marchiano, Sasha Ayad, Stella O’Malley, physician-scientist Lisa Littman, endocrinologist Dr. William Malone, MD; Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Stephanie Winn, sociologist Dr. Michael Biggs, pediatrician Dr. Julia Mason, NYT best-selling writer Lisa Selin Davis, and LGB activist & lifelong Liberal Democrat Joey Brite, among others. The 90-minute documentary cites 45 peer-reviewed medical and journalist articles.

It's so well done I am sharing it with my friends and family.

I'm sorry you feel the need to sarcastically remark that this is somehow all about you. It is not. And, back to the topic at hand, I am not into proving a point as much as I am sharing real concerns with a subject you have created on a forum for open discussion. Yes, I shared my personal stories to show you your point is right. Using the grandmother who gave hormone treatment to the grandson at the age of 2. And then using my cousins as a personal example showcasing how gender affirming care in the school systems are way out of line.

All of this to say, there is an underlying issue that is being ignored. Mental Illness.

Because we have a transgender national awareness day, I feel it is important to bring light to the subject- yes, mental illness is a real problem and especially in the transgender community. So it is appropriate to talk about on a day that is meant to bring awareness to them, or anyone struggling with their assigned gender as dictated by God. And as you know, I feel different about someone actually born with both a penis and a vagina compared to someone choosing they should remove their penis and undergo vaginoplasty.

Please watch the film to better understand my comments. Note the statistics, and note the experiences of the transgendered individuals sharing their personal stories. Thank you~

[tides2dust]

Another personal story.

In my 20's after breaking up with Jessica I tried going on Tinder. I didn't know I matched with a transgender person until they told me. But I didn't let it bother me, I was open to giving our connection a shot. The date ended up being purely sexual. We kissed, but I wasn't comfortable going much further than that. During our time together I learned this person was born male, but his grandmother gave him/her hormone treatment since the age of 2 years old. In other words, someone else decided for them they would be a transgender.

I think it's because the story they were told is, "she saw me playing with barbies and I told her I was a girl."

Something like that. But it kind of touches up on your point. Someone forcing something on another. And being witness to unique experiences.

I'm looking for this documentary which also explains the huge profits made in this transgender movement which is not actually a new movement. Transgender ideologies go back thousands of years. What does seem new, is the weaponization of the issue.

I should also add a study just came out from California showing transgendered men are two times more likely to commit suicide after undergoing irreversible surgery on the genitals.

So yes, I do think there is a mental illness not being addressed. We put these things in the limelight for profits sake not for the individual. There's little room for one to go through the motions without the external pressures found online, in schools, on tv, on social media, through doctors.

I have one more personal story to share. Growing up, my Uncle had two sets of children. The first set were my age. Years later he had another set. The first set we all played games. Amy was the biggest tomboy, she could outrun and even outwrestle me. She went on to play basketball and could have taken her career into college if she wanted. Instead she decided to study sport medicine and wound up getting married. I had never seen her in a dress until her wedding day. Before then it was baggy clothes.

Now, in the same county- the second set of children grew up years after us. But in a environment where the transgender movement was taking political center stage. It became so important that they started enforcing policies- and if teachers in the public school saw signs they were encouraged to whisper in the developing childs ear. So my cousin was told by her teachers she must be a boy because she wears a hoodie, likes boy things, and has an unusual relationship with a girl. There's nothing unusual about it, they were just friends. Someone told her it was unusual. And the kids were no better, the adults were teaching them what issues they needed to be concerned with. They really confused her, she started identifying as a boy and chopped all her hair off. The school essentially groomed her. Some schools went so far as to allowing students to purchase and wear transgender clothes- bras and the like, behind their parents back. It also seems like a money maker. Clothes specifically for transgenders??

So now you see why I say I think we have a mental illness issue. Some of the drugs they use on the transgender community are the same drugs they give sex offenders, and some of the drugs only amplify mental illness or propagate disease.

We all have carried or fought a disease in some form or the other, so it is not meant to be an insult. A disease I have witnessed in the West is one that steamrolls over individuals in the name of profit or personal advancement.

As Van Mol explained, there is no long-term evidence that transitioning decreases suicide, and, in fact, it has permanent consequences, ranging from infertility to blood clots.

He further shared that pharmaceutical companies are profiting greatly from transgender patients who increase their market share. With so much potential for profit, it’s no wonder that the scientific data is being suppressed or ignored. Emphasizing the importance of addressing underlying issues that are often tied to gender dysphoria, Van Mol encouraged parents and children to pursue “watchful waiting.”

Parents, too, are concerned about the uncritical gender-affirming approach. Despite urging from a pediatrician to begin transitioning her daughter, Brynne—one of the multiple parents interviewed—shared why she is pushing back:

The reason I’m being difficult in this is not because I don’t love her. It’s because I love her so much that I am willing to take on this whole ideology just to protect her from potentially making an irreversible decision in her future, and even if that means she wants to hate me and she doesn’t want to talk to me, I love her enough that I’m willing to keep fighting for her.
The documentary also touches on the political and social pressures coming from the U.S. Supreme Court to social media platforms.

Natasha Chart, the former executive director of the liberal feminist organization Women’s Liberation Front, told of the threat that the gender ideology behind the gender-affirming model poses to women’s rights. This is why Women’s Liberation Front filed a brief in the Supreme Court case Bostock v. Clayton County in defense of the funeral home’s right to enforce a sex-specific dress code.

“A man cannot be a woman,” declared Chart in footage from the Supreme Court rally. “There are doctors who will go to work today and … who will put 14-year-old girls into menopause and give troubled young girls cosmetic mastectomies.”

Others have been canceled after speaking out that a man cannot become a woman or vice versa. The documentary featured Canadian journalist and writer Meghan Murphy, who was kicked off Twitter after saying men are not women.

https://www.heritage.org/gender/commentary/new-documentary-highlights-the-harm-gender-affirming-health-care-model-children

Here's a great documentary that might allow us to look deeper from people who have transitioned and de-transitioned... It's called
"Affirmation Generation"

It opens up with a girl saying the reason she thought she was a boy is because she had a dream and saw herself as one, in the dream she was so happy. When she woke up she realized she was a girl.

This is interesting to me, because it might indicate past life connection or some nonordinary state of consciousness.

Another point not made, and maybe never made are the spiritual implications behind someone who exploring the energies of masculine and feminine. Like- past lives, practices for understanding and transcending duality. These things can be explored holistically, but I don't see the rush in the movement as holistic at all. Again, I see it as enabling or creating/propagating mental illness.

Here's the documentary:
https://rumble.com/v2n9n88-affirmation-generation-2023.html
"Affirmation Generation features the stories of six young detransitioners (three men and three women). They sought medical help but instead were irreversibly harmed by "gender-affirming care."

[tides2dust]

Look Eric you can bring up case studies to attempt to prove your point. But I’ve actually had friends that have gone through the pain of social chastisement on the issue and have attempted to be friends with them
and support them on their decisions. Have you done that?

Also, I'd be curious to know whether or not these friends of yours were all born with both parts of if it was just the one person you mentioned. If all, wow that is definitely something. But if not, I'd like to know if you think there was anything else they suffered from that caused them to choose a different gender? Like sexual abuse, autism, depression, anxiety?

These are some of the things we must consider and bring to light on national transgender day. Sometimes being a friend means speaking the hard truths, not enabling poor decisions. I'm not saying that's the case for you with your friends- just sharing the sentiment from yet another personal experience. I'll spare the details. Just know I wish to be the friend that, if I see a red flag, I'd like to know I am willing to share my Heart on the matter. It doesn't mean the other has to listen, it only means I tried. Even if I'm wrong. And by doing so, I am not robbing the individual from making their own choice.

I also mentioned Magnus Hirschfield because I do believe there is societal programming and thought the brief history I read on him was rather fascinating. To not see parallels is fool hearted. In the film they say the inventor of the labatomy was held in high regard. He was even given a nobel peace prize. Only later was it perceived as barbaric. I immediately saw a parallel with Hirschfields brutal attempts at male-to-female sex change. Now, we don't know the accurate account of history. But I do think gender-affirming care is of great concern with todays standards and practices, and I do think mental illness needs to be looked at- not just for transgender individuals but all people. 

[tides2dust]

In fact, one of the detransitioners comes out and says they fell into the transgender movement *because they grew up being bullied.
Not because they were trans, but because they were bullied. They found all this information for transgender ideology online and made this association, because they're being bullied for being different- then they must be trans. And that's what started them down a journey of extremely regrettable gender affirming care.

It's also interesting to note that the T in the LGBTQ movement changes the whole idea behind the campaign for gay rights.
Initially, it was: "We're born this way."

And I am not arguing that. But now, we're noticing this-
"I'm born in the wrong body."

So you went from born this way to born in the wrong body and what's happening is those who are finding out they're just gay- some of them are finding out after going through extremely dangerous body modifications and medical malpractice.

It's a rather deep subject.

[Jitendra Hydonus]

So you went from born this way to born in the wrong body and what's happening is those who are finding out they're just gay- some of them are finding out after going through extremely dangerous body modifications and medical malpractice.

It's a rather deep subject.

Eric; who is ‘you’? All I’m saying is the government shouldn’t be involved in forcing people against there will on such issues.

[tides2dust]

I hope others watch the documentary about the detransitioners and all of the medical malpractice that comes with gender affirming care. I think calling a teenager a she when she is a he is not an act of kindness but promoting mental illness. Unfortunately, the time we find ourselves in- it is very difficult to say this without receiving extreme prejudice and hateful backlash. Ironically, the person calling the transgender by their actual gender would be labeled a bigot and intolerant. If their influence is large enough they even risk financial consequence and "deplatforming."

It's a tough lesson for sure- and I'm not saying to go gung-ho guns blazing and start a personal war with people who wish to be referred to as the opposite sex. There are even people who get offended when you don't refer to them as an animal. There is a time and a place, and sometimes it's better to give the person what they want, even if it is ultimately prolonging their suffering.

I think it takes a great deal of courage to call a radicalized transgender by their appropriate gender. Such an act is not without its risk and consequences, as speaking the truth now days could mean being publicly shamed and ostracized by the so called outside world. But when you really consider the individuals long term happiness, and see that making the transition in genders turns you into a lifelong medical patient- it really makes you ask deeper questions.

And it would seem that the subject has become so politically polarizing that to ask such questions is considered a great offense, and society is robbed of an ability akin to critical thinking and civilized forum. Instead, it becomes mob-rule. Especially when we enable a still developing youth.

[Jitendra Hydonus]

I hope others watch the documentary about the detransitioners and all of the medical malpractice that comes with gender affirming care. I think calling a teenager a she when she is a he is not an act of kindness but promoting mental illness. Unfortunately, the time we find ourselves in- it is very difficult to say this without receiving extreme prejudice and hateful backlash. Ironically, the person calling the transgender by their actual gender would be labeled a bigot and intolerant. If their influence is large enough they even risk financial consequence and "deplatforming."

It's a tough lesson for sure- and I'm not saying to go gung-ho guns blazing and start a personal war with people who wish to be referred to as the opposite sex. There are even people who get offended when you don't refer to them as an animal. There is a time and a place, and sometimes it's better to give the person what they want, even if it is ultimately prolonging their suffering.

I think it takes a great deal of courage to call a radicalized transgender by their appropriate gender. Such an act is not without its risk and consequences, as speaking the truth now days could mean being publicly shamed and ostracized by the so called outside world. But when you really consider the individuals long term happiness, and see that making the transition in genders turns you into a lifelong medical patient- it really makes you ask deeper questions.

And it would seem that the subject has become so politically polarizing that to ask such questions is considered a great offense, and society is robbed of an ability akin to critical thinking and civilized forum. Instead, it becomes mob-rule. Especially when we enable a still developing youth.

Your truth Eric not mine and not necessarily the truth of others. That is the problem with our culture today we have these people who decide it is their duty to define morality and enforce it on others. But you see I agreed with you about vaccines; it’s a personal choice but when it comes to other issues you seem to have the view that it isn’t. And if you do feel that others have free choice on the matter….you some how believe it is courageous to name them the way you deem appropriate and not them. This shows a lack of respect for the values of others. Let people decide their own values. Why must anyone decide the choice they have for themselves also fits everyone else’s?

[tides2dust]

Calling someone by their appropriate gender isn't, "my truth" it's just reality.

Do you call a blue sky green? A flower, aluminum foil? The sun- do you call it Pluto?

Yes, it is courageous to call someone their appropriate gender assigned by God because we live in such a polarized world that to do so could mean physical backlash, financial consequence, and ostracization.

But as you can see in my post, which you've quoted- I say there is a time and a place. In other words, sometimes it is not appropriate to fan the flames of an already mentally unstable person. Such is the case here:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/video/news/video-1831676/Video-Transgender-woman-threatens-shop-employee-called-sir.html
Video: 'Take it outside if you want to call me sir again!' Furious transgender rages at store clerk after he calls her 'sir' instead of 'ma'am'

As you can see, the clerk even apologized but this adult male continued to threaten him and put pressure on him. He threatened physical violence. He demanded the corporate number so he could tattle on the clerk, even though the clerk apologized, and with todays terrible policies(which have been accepted and enforced by many institutions without question) in some cases a person can lose their job for CHOOSING not to follow the lie.

I don't find calling the sun a sun lack of respect. Neither do I think calling the flower a flower, nor a male a male somehow disrespectful. It is just reality. The real disrespect- the madness, are the social pressures being forced upon others to play along in this non reality. It is courageous because,


IF YOU'VE WATCHED THE DOCUMENTARY FOUND HERE:
https://rumble.com/v3u8x97-no-way-back-the-reality-of-lgbtqia-gender-affirming-carereloaded-feb-18-202.html


You would know, one of the detransitioners was saved by another transgender who went all the way and told him not to do it. The man broke down crying explaining how that moment was pivotal and that person saved his life. The transgender who had made the complete surgery confided in him that he battles with suicidal thoughts every day. And then another transgender person they were hanging out with also confided in him the same thing. It was a moment that woke him up to reality. Here are his fully transitioned friends confiding in him that they battle with suicidal tendencies multiple times every single day.

So as you can see in my post, I am not *FORCING* others to accept reality. I have said, sometimes it's better to give a person what they want- even if it is ultimately prolonging their suffering. But that statement of mine, is not very courageous. Is not helping the situation.

You see, the irony here is- you are talking about somehow this view of mine is forcing others...

But really it is quite the opposite. It is the malpratice of gender affirming care, the social pressures from corporate, political, educational and radical entities *FORCING* others to PARTICIPATE in a lie. What about my right to call someone the gender they were born into?

Now if you were born with both parts and want to be called a girl, I will oblige. But if you are a transitioning 14 year old(boy or girl) I will let you know I think you're making a poor decision and share the great risk and dangers you're putting yourself in. Someone has to.

Are 14 year olds old enough to vote? Purchase alcohol? But can we remove their genitals and start them on lifelong medicines at the cost of their health and well being?

Please watch the video, I can only encourage it so many times. I think you would understand my concerns and where I'm coming from if you opened yourself up to their stories.

[guest649]

[mccoy]

Steve, what Eric is saying is perfectly reasonable. Encouraging young boys and girls in their transgender inclinations means leveraging the immature mind of adolescents for the sake of pursuing an ideology, a political narrative, and a willingness to change society but without respecting the times and limits dictated by elementary psychology, psychiatry and even common sense.

When I hear about pushing transgenderism in elementary schools, I think about indoctrination, similar to that exercised by russia and china.

I don't know why the woke movement wants to go to such extremes. And wants people to believe it to be the normality.

As far as we are concerned, Yoga is surely not the path of extremes, it is the path of moderation. I understand your reasons, but these cease to be valid when the age of the involved persons is legally immature. I would put 21 years at least as the minimum age for starting such procedures of gender change.

[tides2dust]

Please quote where anyone is pushing transgender changes in elementary school. You know the ‘woke’ movement wants to go to such extremes….

If you would like to see where gender affirming care goes too far you only need to watch this documentary to better understand:
https://rumble.com/v3u8x97-no-way-back-the-reality-of-lgbtqia-gender-affirming-carereloaded-feb-18-202.html

Now you've asked to be shown and I've tried providing some perspective by imploring you to watch this serious film discussing the matter. You continue to ignore or brush under the rug the personal accounts brought before you. Instead of challenging yourself and taking your own spiritual disciplines to action- you remain nestled in the comforts of your own biases, narrative or ideologies.

I can't fault you. I could get angry or upset, but I really don't care to either. What's the use? I already had it in mind you would respond in the manner you have.

The truth is, everyone has enough opinions for more than themselves. And I intend to write about this in a separate thread. 

I'm not going to be offended that you would totally dismiss my personal observations and experience with my Cousin as I've tried shareing here. 
But it seems I'm not the only one to have had some experience with the propaganda, pressure and institutionalization of "gender affirming care." GAC... carefully selected words in order to create a desired effect.
 
https://youtu.be/cDIq7z1Fzzs?si=-k5RoEFhmaYlRAjx&t=2436
Megyn Kelly recounts why they pulled her son out of a private school:

“They were saying this to his entire third-grade class. Third-grade class,” Kelly emphasized. “You could take puberty blockers and then when you get to be 18 you can have an operation to have your penis chopped off and build a vagina. And you’ll be a woman.”

She continued, “This literally happened to my son’s class of eight and nine-year-olds, and hence we are no longer at that school, one of the best schools in the nation.”

Your argument, without ever having experienced a child going through the motions of these institutions, is that the child must be reporting back propaganda fed by the parents. The truth is the propaganda is the other way around. And I have found slews of evidence online to support this.



When Adrian became a brother is about a child choosing to become the opposite sex and the propaganda is there to show that loving parent should support this decision.
Because the child "felt" they were the opposite sex- it must be true. This is the atrocity behind gender affirming care. And there are MANY, many books like this.

Fun fact, one of the "queens" from drag queen story hour was arrested for having child pornography.

In Virginia Loudoun County- yet another example, a girl speaks out on the "POLICY REFORM" adopted by a school

“Two years ago, I was told policy 1040 was just an umbrella philosophy and you weren’t going to allow boys into the girls’ locker rooms. But here you are doing just that,” the eighth-grader told board members at a Tuesday meeting.

8th grade boys identifying as girls allowed in the girls restroom. WHAT COULD GO WRONG?

Here's yet another example of propaganda aimed at educating children on gender and sexual orientation,

A BBC programme aimed at nine- to 12-year-olds includes the astonishing claim that there are ‘over 100 gender identities’.

The film, ‘Identity – Understanding Sexual and Gender Identities’, is being offered on the corporation’s website as part of its relationships and sex education package.

I could go on, and on. But instead. I am going to once again encourage all of you to watch the documentary. Otherwise, I can only assume your, "show me the proof" is being demanded with your eyes closed and fingers shoved into your ears. "LA LA LA LA LA."


Let's get serious. The film shows the difference and sudden rise of self identified transgender from 2020 to 2024. It isn't pretty. It's not because suddenly everyone is transgender, but I do think there is real propaganda attempting to manipulate confused children.

But did you know... ?

A landmark 15-year study found what critics have been saying all along: most “trans” children grow out of their gender confusion by the time they are fully grown adults.

“Gender non-contentedness, while being relatively common during early adolescence, in general decreases with age and appears to be associated with a poorer self-concept and mental health throughout development.”

But over the last 7 years, rates of gender dysphoria diagnoses soared in every state except one, “with the average age of diagnosis trending younger,” the Daily Mail reported.

The evidence also highlights the trans movement’s social contagion characteristics as well as the medical industry’s profit incentive given the sharp rises in gender dysphoria diagnoses in a relatively short period of time.

An analysis of insurance claims conducted by Komodo Health Inc found between 2017 and 2021, approximately 121,880 children aged six to 17 years old were diagnosed with the condition.   

In 2021, 42,000 were given the diagnosis, a 70 percent increase from 2020.

And children under 18 years old now make up one-fifth of new diagnoses each year.

In the United States, 1.6 million people ages 13 and older identify as transgender. 

A report by the health data analytics firm Definitive Healthcare shows the rate of gender dysphoria increased in every state except South Dakota from 2018 to 2022 across all ages.

Dr. Jay Richards, director of The Heritage Foundation’s Richard and Helen DeVos Center for Life, Religion, and Family, said the study will render “gender-affirming care” on minors historically on par with “eugenics and lobotomies.”

THE STUDY: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-024-02817-5

And there are TONS of $$$ being flooded in right now to, "woke policies"
And at the same time, if you try to point that out or talk about it- you risk being "demonitized" "debanked" "deplatformed" or "ostracized" labeled the equivalent of a Nazi or some tyrant.

When in reality, we're talking about the propagation of disease and illness. Let me know if you find the courage to watch the film and hear out the opinion of those with first hand accounts of these radical policies and propaganda, people who have since detransitioned. See what they have to say before you reply to this post.

[Jitendra Hydonus]

What I’ve noticed Eric is that you have a predilection for watching films that affirm a given point of view and then would like others to watch them thinking that it gives them a different perspective on the people and the views of those who made them. But in fact my views in general have not turned out better on for instance Paul Watson or Alex Jones but rather I have become more aware of the hostility and anger these men have. Yes they occasionally come out with some important information. But their general approach, appearance, attitude and actions are permeated with anger….from my perspective.

[tides2dust]

Does that mean you tried watching the documentary? Or are you just pulling stuff out from where the sun don't shine? 

Brother I don't know what's going on with you, there's a lot of drama it would appear. All because I posted a contrary view to your own. You don't have to accept anything. I'm not here to force you, but this thread is public for others who read and wish to participate.

Otherwise, why do you have a forum?

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Does that mean you tried watching the documentary? Or are you just pulling stuff out from where the sun don't shine? 

Brother I don't know what's going on with you, there's a lot of drama it would appear. All because I posted a contrary view to your own. You don't have to accept anything. I'm not here to force you, but this thread is public for others who read and wish to participate.

Otherwise, why do you have a forum?

Yes and you are participating; no matter what you ‘read’ into my life’s ‘drama’ as you have described here and personally.