I agree with Steve, relationships among human beings are often difficult because they are tainted bt the inherent proclivities and limitations of each individual being, so often it's best to speak up and make things clear, each one has his or her own subjective understanding of things..
One example I personally observed, don't know if it is 100% in topic but sure caused me some wonderment.
Women. Sometimes they say they are sensitive, very sensitive. To what people say, to the behaviours of Others, sometimes maybe meaning that if people are rude or do not understand them they feel it to much.
At the same time, they often behave in a very insensitive way toward Others, not even realizing that they are acting in the same unsensitive way they complain Others are doing towards them.
One striking axample of this was my ex fiancee.
Another striking example was a woman in the other forum. I was tempted to write her, but I restrained. May be I should have done it. Maybe better avoided. don't know, women can be pretty complicated beings, saying one thing, thinking another and acting still another way. And all that often without malice. Lol.
On a public forum of this nature it is not always possible to go into personal details or it can be tremedously time consuming. Since you are not writing specifics here but rather generalities i can only respond with generalities. When someone reacts angrily or resorts to name calling or vulgarity there is really not much you can do. This is obviously derogatory and not of a spiritual nature which this forum was created for. If someone explodes or huffs off in steam there is very little you can do. These behaviors are obviously not spiritual in nature.
People are often disatisfied with us because we do not act or behave in a way that satisfies their ego or their preconcieved notions of how a relationship 'should go' there is very little you can do for them when this occurs. These type of reactions tell us more about the person they are coming from rather than about us. Just because a person disowns us or has a temper tantrum and leaves does not mean they 'won' a situation. They bring their behavior wherever they go and it will only cause more problems for themselves.
Much insensitivity goes along with a lack of communication. When people assume that we should already know without explanations then they show irritations with us; either verbally or in their behavior there is very little that can be done for them or the situation. What i have found is if communication does not resume, eventually they leave our lives without us raising a finger and new spiritual people enter our lives who represent more spiritual understanding.
I understand some of what you are saying about women. If they are at a distance it may be better to to text them rather than talk on the phone where they can say you are insensitive and they claim they can hear it in your voice. Because if they are making it up you can ask them what you said in the message that was insensitive without resorting to the frequency of your voice and subjective observations on their part.
Sensitivity is a double edge sword. People can be too sensitive because they have too much ego and/or they can be sensitive because of intuition and so many degrees of combinations.
Enjoyed your observations mccoy
