Message #16086

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I didn't bring up his name. I posted a video clip where his name was mentioned somewhere. The video clip was about how we are all comprised of many different selves. You often hear people talk about another "side" to somebodies personality. That is a commonplace way of saying the same thing.

The fragmented psyche. It's not a cause for blame, but just something to be aware of. We can't expect people to be totally consistent, keep promises, or be reliable in any way so long as they are still fragmented psyches. Also, so long as we are still fragmented in our psyches, we can't even expect ourselves to be reliable nor can we expect to be able to keep promises to ourselves or live up to our own expectations. Because one part of the psyche makes the promise and another part of the psyche is left trying to keep it.

The same thing is with guilt and regret. We feel guilty when we act out of a fragmented psyche. Because one part of us wanted to go one way, and another part of us wanted to go the other. We weren't total in our act.

Integrating one's psyche is not necessarily easy as pie. But awareness of one's fragmentation is a good place to start.

So, I posted this in the thread that was discussing lovers who have left. I wanted to shed some light on the issue of why lovers seem to promise you the sun and moon only to disappear without a trace. A part of them really did mean it, but it was the other parts of them that were sectioned off who eventually surfaced and had their own business to attend to.

So...to answer your question...I am aware of fragmented aspects of my psyche. I am aware that there are parts of myself that are not integrated. There may be more even than I am aware of. But that which I am aware itself feels like a challenge.