Why does friendship and love often vanish? Why does love have the nasty habit of disappearing over nite? Paramahansa Yogananda has this observation; "Do not poison friendship by demand and compulsion and wrong familiarity; or by discourtesy, or harsh speech, or mental cruelty." That is what he says not to do. What does he say to do? "Friendship consists in becoming increasingly useful in every way (materially and spiritually) to your friends. Therefore. keep unceasingly developing if you want to be a good friend, or to inspire friends or to receive others as your friends."
Do we create karma when we dream? According to the SRF ministers we do. The karma is not as strong as in the 'waking state' but nevertheless we create karma when we are asleep so it is important to watch our thoughts. Last nite before I went to bed i was reading the above quote by Paramahansa Yogananda and I woke up to memories of helping a spiritual family in my dreams. When i was done i went to a SRF occasion and talked to the leader of the group. I asked her if I could help in some way. She told me that she had asked many friends but none could help and she needed help right away because she had to be somewhere and needed many things moved. So i told her I would be there.
It strikes me as interesting that just before I went to sleep I was reading about this. It shows that we can control our thoughts-even in our dreams-if we prompt ourselves to have kind and helpful dreams before sleep by concentrating on such thoughts before sleeping.
Jitendra