There is the anger which manifests in sudden violent outbursts and there is the anger which simmers, invisible to all, lingering in your brain, consuming the whole being. Guess which is the worse one...
Mind control is the only strategy, especially in the 2nd case.
My outbursts used to be rare, now there are nearly no outbursts at all, wonder if ti is age increasing and testosterone decreasing.
But I was subject to the simmering kind for a while and it was very hard to control. Only mental detachment and analysis won it.
i think the absence of anger comes from years of spiritual practice. Observing ourselves and our reactions to circumstances helps tremendously. The more we see this life for what it is and the less we get caught all up in it the less we react angrily to it.
Meditation practice helps us observe our reactions; our body functioning and our emotions. After years of practice we are so use to watching ourselves that we immediately recognize reactions that are unhealthy to ourselves and destroy relationships. We cannot control other peoples reactions but we can b in control of our own. i can relate to mccoys idea of mental detachment. Detachment to our bodily reactions to our emotions and to the behavior of those we meet is a continuing spiritual practice that does not stop with the control of anger. When we sit in silence we even remind ourselves to detach ourselves from our thoughts. If there r no thoughts and only the joy of what is behind our thoughts... how is there anything to b angry about? That joy starts slipping thru into all our activities and anger is no longer part of our lives.
It has helped me tremendously to have a guru who has shown me over and over what i need to work on.
