Message #16332

[Jitendra Hydonus]

It was very nice of you to share this about yourself Eric. There are also people who are not what we thought they were. This also plays into the situation. Yet they might have projected themselves as something more. Love has the nasty habit of disappearing over nite. Why is this the case? Because people give up on being loving. There are times we have no choice but to separate. How we do that shows our ability to be loving. Yet even if we need to separate we can still show that we care about others if we shared so much with them. If the person you were with is able to do that then on some level her love has not died. However we do meet people in our life who we eventually realize have a very limited ability to love. We may have not recognized it till circumstances bring that recognition to the fore.

Setting boundaries shows jealousy, possessiveness and the need to protect. At times we need space with other human beings but boundaries are made to show ownership. We really own nothing. Especially not people. It will all be taken at death however our concept of ownership must be given up. As long as we have it we will return to this earth to express it. How can we be happy for relationships that express not one ego but a larger ego developed by two people. This expression of ego is not love but a confrontation and isolation from others and the world.