Right? Unless of course you two were close friends where such a thing was a normal part of your exchange- I never heard anyone say Amma should learn English- but there are probably plenty of people that say, "So and so should do such and such." It doesn't mean they know better. LOL
Yes and people have different approaches Eric. At times I find it better to withdraw from confrontation even though someone else may want to ‘ram on’. It gives time and energy to understand ourselves better before making mistakes that could cost a valuable friendship. I’ve witnessed it before. Challenging words and unkindness sometimes are unproductive. It may not appear that way to one of the parties involved. But you really can never take back the words you say to others once they’ve been expressed. We can forgive but it is not that easy to forget. There is always that thought; when is the next onslaught? Sometimes with best friends they too need space, to reflect and spiritualize their understanding. It is not always ‘avoidance’ as you stated before but rather a time to reflect, perhaps cool down and definitely a time to relax our hold on fortified boundaries that keep each other off of forbidden territory…. those marshlands and swamps that can entangle you with seaweed and quicksand; muck, which there may be no way to rescue 🛟 us from. Better to build a bridge over time that can withstand such conditions.
