Message #41018

[Jitendra Hydonus]

I often find much wasted time with friends because believing something brings all their arguments or views back to the same assumption, that is that there view is correct. For instance you may have someone convinced that you have the money to help them, therefore they will continue to argue that you should help them. They may end up saying you are stingy or that you just do not care about them or even in extreme cases attempt to get your bank account and routing number to manipulate your finances to justify their belief that you should help them and have the means to do so.

In many cases it is not that extreme, however we have to recognize that we cannot always come to a conclusion that satisfies two people. Often we must cool off the situation by temporarily leaving it till we can find a way to circumvent the confrontation or if you will;  the impasse. Often meditation is a means to find a solution that too some degree satisfies the differences between people.

I have found that the interesting thing about the circular logic loop is that there is the basic assumption that for instance money will solve the problem. However, interestingly enough once the financial situation is resolved another one takes its place. So there just doesn’t ever seem to be enough money to resolve the problem and make people happy. As a result we have to eventually consider the fact that money alone will not remedy the situation. It does not give the a lasting happiness but instead continues to create more problems.