Message #39967

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Sometimes our ego and our carnal desires want to take a relationship and turn it into a physically intimate one. A physical, intimate relationship should be reciprocated or well-received. If we find ourselves longing and the reality of our desire to be a one-sided fantasy we might turn away from the relationship altogether. Sometimes denial is met with frustration and immaturity. There is a misconception about, "the friend zone" that society and pornography support. That choosing to be friends with someone of the opposite sex without achieving sexual intercourse is somehow less manly or perceived as weak. This is immature and unrealistic. Friendship is the foundation and basis for a successful relationship, even intimate physical ones. Most of us know this- but in our loneliness and egocentric minds, and in our developing youth- there are forces outside of ourselves that reinforce the "reptilian nature."

A type of epiphany has also occurred to me.

We don't realize the rippling effect our actions stir within consciousness. Could nurturing a friendship be healing the planet, or even people or dynamics from another planet- or another dimension? Could choosing to keep to a friendship be creating a scenario in a future life, or even in the immediate life- for fun and passionate times? Certainly.