Message #2807

[StephenK]

Thank you Into Blue!   

    I think she's one of those who may turn out to be a Guardian Angel herself.   She seems to be training
for something.....?   She called me today and we were talking for some time (not getting work done then, but
the time spent with her is worth it :^)  It seems she's become something of a magnet for all sorts of warm loving
souls who are having difficulties dealing with either things in the present or past and often-times both. 
Over the last year she's had 4 young adults around her age come to her with stories that they were molested
by either a parent or close family member when they were younger.  Two of them told her that she was the
first person they've ever told this to.  The forth to do so was talking with her the night before last.  She had
both school and work the next day and yet she stayed up until around two in the morning working through 
both the young girls past memory and the problems the girl was currently having with her boy friend.... all the stuff
she was telling me was amazingly complex and yet my daughter (who has only just turned 21) walked through
the heart of what was going on with the wisdom of someone far beyond her age.  She comes to me often with
these stories and we then work though them ourselves to find the best center of balance for both her and the
person she's been talking to.  I usually don't have to say much, just channel thoughts that occur to me , and that
seem to fit seamlessly with what we're currently discussing. 

   She has all the early makings of quite an effective and empathetic healer.  Often times those she talks to
act upon her suggestions, and return to her later thanking her graciously for walking them through the difficulties
they were facing at the time. 

    She's incredibly non judgmental in these situations... she just opens up and allows the other person
to vent and explore and my daughter paces along side them as they're doing this.....  she is however judgmental
in traffic (she hates bad drivers) but sit down with her person to person and she blows me away..... It took me
until I was around 35 or so to start practicing, with any confidence, what she's now doing comfortably at 21...

   Now that was funny,  almost on cue while I was writing this my son called and I mentioned his sisters
propensity for being the spontaneous councilor for many,  and he was telling me that he has people sharing
all sorts of personal stuff with him all the time.  His experience is to be mostly the listener. And yet he listens
very well, and without tension or judgment....  and never tells another soul what that person confided in him. 

    And oddly this is what my wife does for a living.  I've listened to her going very deep into many of her clients
personal lives for over an hour or so at a time... The conversations are often very heartfelt and my wife is
genuinely empathetic and warmly comforting throughout each one.....

    I've never really put this together before but this is something I need to give some more thought to.... We've
just been cruising along as a family in our own ways normally,  but with a most unusual theme hovering around just below
the surface.   Our propensity is to help others and heal as an almost spontaneous byproduct of who we are.... we just
go-there so often and so normally that it didn't seem like anything unusual....   

    What an odd thing to realize after all of these years.....    I think I just had something of an epiphany....  :^)