i can agree it's appropriate to detach from situations or even people in order to still thoughts. my gf was in this manner, she would need to escape to find her peace whereas i was more head on- yet it was her actions that would provide creative insight. exactly as you said, discussions turned argument... although i think she found my approach just as beneficial, sometimes its okay to face things head on bringing thoughts to light can ease misconception.
have you had your sip of sake recently? the latest talk of peace i find very suitable to your thirst for relaxation.
http://musicmeditate.smfforfree.com/index.php/topic,1166.105.html for your reference
hot showers filled with steam help me relax. i also think it's appropriate to get off the computer, turn the phone off, be in nature. this helps me relax. reading spiritual pursuits help place me in the state of mind.
cheers brother.
