Message #20826

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Welcome, Donna. Gosh, a broken heart is a spiritual path! 

I think your intuitions are correct. Here's some of my opinions...

The really great Gurus teach monogamy, not because they are prudes, but because this is the way to transcend the base aspects of sexuality. Sex between husband and wife is really a sacred act. Marriage is a spiritual vow. It should all be approached with the same respect as other types of sadhana.

With that said, it is clearly not possible to attain perfect happiness through perfected relationship alone. The spiritual purpose of marriage is to help people focus on their love of God and not spend their lives on a fruitless search for an elusive other that will fill the hole created by thinking we are individuals, separate from God and everything, and so on.

Peace