I began building websites and using the web in 1996. After that, my husband and I built a web hosting company with customers all over the world which we operated for the next ten years. At one point we had over 1,000 customers. All this to say, I have a lot of experience interacting with people on the web! On my journey, I have found that when people don't respond to a post or an e-mail, it is best to assume innocence and not make assumptions. There are dozens of reasons people don't reply immediately if at all; being disinterested in only one of them. For instance, it is possible they did not see it, or if they did they did not have the time to reply at that moment, or perhaps they were choosing their words or contemplating what was written, etc. Each person has their own unique communication style. As for me, because of the business, I got a little burned out on the internet for awhile. People, complete strangers, can send you long letters, ask questions, demand answers, etc - often without invitation. At one point when I was an Admin on a poetry site I dreaded checking my inbox because I always had dozens of letters demanding a personal response. Indepth getting to know yoou letters! And that was supposed to be 'free' time! In work, I had hundreds each day. I also loathe the phone for that reason. I still get an ache in my gut when I hear a phone ring, even now - because I had to be at beck and call 24/7 for so many years - usually for people who did not appreciate they were just one of many asking for something of me in my small world. Ha ha. I recentlly made a friend locally who is very nice, but she is a text-a-holic. If I don't reply immediately to a text, her feelings get hurt. I find that controlling. I try to please her, but I have to be me, right? Wonder if others have the same issues.
Peace out, s.
Your opinion has been noted Shannon. However would u also take mine into consideration? If u
do not take the view that people r not currently interested u run a large risk of waking a venomous snake from a pit in the ground. i had one who even acted as though i was stalking her. When in fact i was simply being friendly as we had been for years in the past.
So i find it better to b safe then sorry. It is hard to know what lurks in the head of someone that isolates themselves or simply does not communicate. It is better to leave them alone until they show signs of interest and kindness.
