Message #19749

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Another example; my husband of these past 22 years is also a friend.  In the same manner, we had little on the surface in common when we met.  We embarked on a life adventure anyway – because there was that deep, unmistaken soul recognition.  We made mistakes!  We did some things well.  We laughed, we yelled, we cried and we were silent, too.  That marriage is over.  But!  A friend is a friend is a friend.  Perhaps I could have spent those decades in a cave, or in a convent – or some kind of spiritual retreat, or seeking a mate whose aspirations exactly met mine  - but that is not what I needed for growth.  Where would the challenge be in that?  I needed to experience tangible, messy, beautiful life.  I got what I needed in the material sense (lessons learned through being a wife, mother, partner, etc.) and thank God, I still got what I needed on the spiritual plane (to play out some earthly roles with a real friend.)

Now I am rambling, and I feel I’ve reached the limit on how many times a person can use the word ‘friend’ and still be credible.  Lol.  Just some thoughts your post brought to mind.  Thank you for reaching out and sharing your thoughts, too.  S.

 

All of us r different Shannon....but speaking for myself... i just can't imagine being/living with someone who does not have similar spiritual aspirations and meditates. It is not just for me but for the other person as well. They would quickly find my routine of energization, meditation and reading spiritual material boring to them. If not it would eventually arise when someone else wants to do something else for 'entertainment' and your interests just do not coincide. One person wants to see a saint or be in a spiritually uplifting place while the other wants to go to a sports occasion or golfing etc.  i believe that if we have genuine spiritual aspirations we eventually find others around us who do not have such interests; fall out of our lives. Then there are those who take their place who reinforce our highest aspirations and interests. i have seen this in my own life.

You have a lot of spiritual affinities and were born into this life with an interest in beauty, poetry and with spiritual good karma. It may b more accurate to say that one such as yourself has already withdrew into a world of one's own beauty and was dedicated to an art and/or a spiritual life. Even in this lifetime the desire is strong. As like any ascetic it is necessary to develop these talents and the ability to gain the trust of others (which you have done) in an atmosphere of solitude...which you have done somewhere in the distant past.  This shows thru in your spiritual evolution and is not just my observation but those of spiritual seekers who i have learned from their wisdom and insight. Your spiritual journey this life is tied in strongly with others and your service with them.

It is difficult to part from what we really are. We eventually come to a recognition of our true nature and become aware of the fact that there are others around us who leave our lives or we leave them because they just cannot really understand what we have learned and what we practice as 'old souls' Of course because of karmic reasons we may continue to communicate at a superficial level but we realize that a chapter of our lives has come to a close.

Be True to Yourself

This is the time to fight if you are ready
or this is the time to change your beliefs
This is the time to live all your passions
This is the time to show how you feel

If its not real
You don't want to hold it
If its not real how can you go with it?
If it not you
It will show thru
If nothing else
Be true to yourself

Sometimes your life has no meaning
That's when your faith must show thru
Somehow, somewhere there will be an answer
and all your efforts will bear fruit

This is the time to look in the mirror
This is the time to ask to see clearer

If its not real
You don't want to hold it
If its not real how can you go with it?
If it not you
It will show thru
If nothing else
Be true to yourself

J.