Message #16743

[Swami Peevananda]

I find that women are often right. They understand the earth more, where men are more interested in the "rules of the game" and abstractions. Men keep their heads in the clouds more. Women don't give a damn about your rules. Women realize that rules are only a means not an end. It doesn't matter if you do everything "right" with a women. It only matters how real your heart is, how honest your feelings with them are. If you are putting on, they always know.

http://www.amazon.com/In-Different-Voice-Psychological-Development/dp/B0025J3YDY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1407943245&sr=8-1&keywords=in+a+different+voice

In this book, she points out the differences between the games little girls play from little boys. Little girls games are always relationship based, with changeable rules. Mens games always have strictly defined rules and referees. For women, rules only serve to nurture the relationship aspect and connections between individuals. For boys, rules are absolutes that are unbendable.