I understand some of what you are saying about women. If they are at a distance it may be better to to text them rather than talk on the phone where they can say you are insensitive and they claim they can hear it in your voice. Because if they are making it up you can ask them what you said in the message that was insensitive without resorting to the frequency of your voice and subjective observations on their part.
That's exactly one fo the aspects of hypersensitivity= wanting to find something in a nuance which actually correlates to no relevant thoughts behind the speech.
Speaking of phone calls, you reminded me of a couple of funny examples:
1) I had a phone conversation with a mutual friend, while my wife was listening. Then she asked what he told me, and I complied Then, not satisfied with my answer, she asked me in what
tone he told me that. I answered that I didn't carry out a Fourier analysis of his speech pattern so I couldn't say exactly. Fourier analysis is one of the most popular ways in engineering to analyse vibratory phenomena, like speech, music, earthquakes and so on.
2)Another example was at the job site, many years ago. I had a phone conversation with a female lawyer who represented a worker asking for some compensation. I was examining his practice. I answered in perfectly neutral terms, like the situation required. The lawyer then complained to my boss that I had been a little cranky at the phone. The boss asked me for clarification later, because he found that weird, so I had the opportunity to get back mentally to the recent phone call. I could really find nothing, I might have said, consciously or absent mindedly, which could have been construed as gruffy, crunky or similar. By me, but not by a female mind!!
There is one more thing personally related to you, but I'm going to tell that later in a private message, if I'm able to forward it.
