Message #14859

[Jitendra Hydonus]

It feels good to have a strong connection with several friends. They build and give strength to life and our resolve for a noble character.

I feel that with several members that frequent this site. I understand the two of four ideas you took from a book Eric. One being; to not have assumptions about others. The other to not take things personally. Not having assumptions seems easier for me since i have been in so many unpredictables in life that it seems anything is possible. However sometimes we have very personal relationships with others and i have found that people do take things very personally.

i am working on this a lot because what was once personal may become more distant; a distant wind. We share such wonderful close relatiionships with others but like anything else there is a time we must let go. Yet when we feel such love for others we have to let them have their own free will.

I understand this yet it is surprising to me how many people in life seem to turn off and on relationships like a faucet. Maybe it is not all  just all taking things personally. Is it that many of us do not have the capacity, at this time, in our spiritual evolution to experience depth in relationships? Perhaps it stems from a boderline personality disorder in which their are those who just can't face the challenges of relationships and seem to be tossed from one relationship or friendship to another without many long lasting and enduring encounters.