Message #14663

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Thanks for sharing Namaste2All. It seems to me that one of the most difficult elements of physical attraction and love is the fact that one can be physically attracted to someone that does not share the same attraction. Or one can love someone they do not  have a physical attraction for. Or someone else may share an attraction for us that we do not share for them even though we may care deeply for them. These incongruities may arise as a way of showing us that this world will never quite offer the happiness it promises.

The whole matter of sexual attraction is an interesting consideration. Where and how does attraction to another human being arise? Is it some kind of conception in our brain that creates a desire for a certain form? Yet how can this be completely possible if we are attracted to a form but suddenly find no interest when we find that the form we are attracted to is devoid of a spiritual nature. Or even more difficult: When we find that someone else is attractive in some ways but very emotionally or spiritually immature in other ways?

No doubt there are those that have all these mixed feelings about us as well. Then there are strong attractions to others who are in relationships that are unsatisfactory to themselves yet for various reasons they do not pull themselves away from such relationships.Then there are those who have a satisfactory mutual attraction yet for various reasons become jealous and possessive about keeping them or still feel an unsatiable longings that are not completely being satisfied.

I have observations but answers to such dilemnas are not as easily obtained. The unfortunate
element is that attraction/repulsion seems to lead to many separations. Yet how is one to avoid
such parodoxes of life? Perhaps that is why some of us here spend so much time meditating; to transcend these dualities of the human condition.