Message #14133

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Thank You for spending so much time on my posts.You also brought up the subject of boundaries.
Life is full of boundaries. From the lines on the highway to property lines to lines we
establish in relationships. What we want out of the relationship and what we do not want.
They often determine whether or not we accept a relationship with someone else or
whether they accept a relationship with us and to what extent and what kind of
relationship! 

This can be quite a topic in itself. We often find that are partner or friend
wants something very different than we do out of a relationship. I choose not to use
the word boundary so much as agreement. Relationships come to an agreement
of how they can function. In some relationships they are even unspoken for a long
time. They just seem to work out naturally without all the talk and negotiation.
Others require much more talk because the two involved have a different
perspective or may have even changed their outlook.

Sometimes I get confused about what is stated on the forum and it is best to take people
at their face value till you learn that you can not. Often people hint at things and you may
need to have it said perfectly clear. Just some thoughts here Comet. One thing leads to another.
I thought about starting a separate subject called boundaries but than realized that your
title oooops! covers it perfectly! HaHa

Hope I didn't make a big deal of being lonely. Maybe its something I need to look at.
Its nice when people admit they may have erred or have something to learn. Otherwise
relationships get rigid and calcified. They can reach a stalemate. I was so happy to
hear you make the comment that maybe you should let your guard down a bit. It showed
me that you're willing to look at things differently if need be.