I'm a jerk
Without forgiveness for ourselves and others we remain stuck and unable to move on. i've been there myself. My mind often tortures itself with repetitive thoughts. When this happens it is is difficult to act from a center of spontaneous kindness. Obsessive thought patterns are a result of dwelling on things morosely. That is what i am finding. For me it is important to break thru these thought patterns.
It is possible we can make our routine mechanical and like drudgery. It doesn't hurt to explore different patterns from time to time otherwise we may react in ways that cause disruption in relationships. It may b an unconscious message to us and a wake ⏰ up call.