Message #14856

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Holding on to anger is like grasping  :-o a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who will get burned. Buddha

I have been talking with a friend about dealing with anger in others because we encountered anger in someone else. It is interesting because many times you cannot say anything because someone that is angry is often 'looking for a fight'.

So often you have to leave the beast to its own cage. Saying much of anything can draw you in to the beasts cage of anger. Sometimes it is better to let the beast to itself for time out. Leaving to another room or out of the house or car for a time may be the best solution. If it occurs on the internet, ignoring it, or if it causes troubles with others: leaving temporarily may be wiser. You may not  be in a position to do anything  and doing nothing may have a better outcome.

Many times people think their anger is justified.  It rarely changes anything for the better. Anger is like a forest fire: it burns everything in its path and destroys relationships. How do you deal with the anger you see in others and yourself?