Yogananda offered that
"Anger arises from thwarted desires."
Thwarted means we attached to "expectations of a specific outinthe balls.ome", and were let down when it did not happen that way.
I continue to strive to understanding how to stop the cycle -- that attachment...
1). It seems perfectly natural to have an "expectation",
-- having an expectation does not seem contrary to Truth or Harmony - not at least on it's own,
I think this because God's Creation (this Universe) is ruled by LAW of cause and effect,
and God gave us a mind and reason and such to see "possibilities",
and even see the "probability" of a specific "possibility" arriving outwardly in events.
(I.E. - to expect)
2). It seems the issue is with "attaching" and "specific"
(not remaining pliable and flowing)...
{ this "attachment to a specific outcome" is what gets me... it is what sets me up for the rollercoaster ride ! }
For example, if someone cuts me off in traffic,
Do my thoughts and emotions boil up ?
Do I send 'dagger eyes', bad vibes their way, and bring up a wall of seperation ?
Do I have to understand why -- because sometimes it seems best to give the "why" to "God"... and not think we have to bring some justice by our reaction on the road, etc.
BUT Yogananda also advises that we should not be a door mat -- do not "bite", doesn't mean we shouldn't "hiss" in a measured manner.
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do we simply say,
"God, you are expressing in that one... I don't have to understand why, but goodness what a show, what a fuss! "
"Maybe they are a clock worker trying to get to work, or to pick up a child, or distracted by a headache, or work issue..."
Do we think how tough it must be for that person to live in their own close-looped energy ? ( I used to experience mild road rage and more aggressive driving -- it's a terrible place to be -- I remember it made me unhappy to be like that... )
But when it comes down to it... we have to guard ourselves -- and God will move us away from those persons and situation that are not resonate (i.e. - that are negative). We do not, and should not be a door mat... compassion for one's center is also very much a core path...
Anyways,, just sharing some of my life's observations...
Cheers,
Namaste2All it is so nice to have your recent presence here. I do not know if it
was partially out of perception. If it was your sensitivity was right on.
As you would say: What's up with this|that? And recently I have felt the same
myself: What's up with this? Sometimes the presence of friends couldn't be more timely.
I am happy to see that you have brought up some points about thwarted desire and
expectations creating anger.i wonder though when the Indians were forcibly massacered
and driven from their homes... can we say that anger arose out of thwarted desire
and expectations? I mean if someone (God forbid) came into your house raped
your wife while u were tied up and being kicked in the balls....Would anger arrise out of thwarted desire and expectations?
that caused your anger? Or should we be at peace with the situation? I am giving an extreme example
to understand if and when anger is justified. Perhaps u or I would not feel anger but
most of us would feel something and how do we deal wth that something when it occurs.
I think that some of us have felt such feelings on the forum and even toward each other.
These are not easy questions to answer. My thought is to explore and not ignore feelings
so we can come to better understanding of y we and others respond and act as they do
when placed in situations that can cause such escalated reactions; whether these actions
come from anger some other emotion or mixed emotions.
Many of us have learned much about managing anger and finding ways to eliminate it
from our lives. Yet there is a close relative to anger. It is irritation. We often witness this
in our friends and even perhaps moreso in ourselves. If exposed to more challenging
circumstances irritation can escalate into anger. So for me I am always trying to be
aware of my irritations and nip them in the bud.
In.divine friendship
Jitendra
