"Just the other night a hometown football game
My wife nd I ran into my old high school flame
And as I introduced them the past came back to me
And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be
She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And I could tell that time had changed me
In her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all"
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It is sometimes this way, but are response and reaction after whatever has passed has passed, is what we are left with, who we are, as we continue to evolve and change, and hopefully not become more closed off, and put a shell around our heart because we were hurt.
I think Eric described the "other person's point of view" quite well, as well as the problem of obsession and not being able to accept another as they present themselves.
Personally, I have realized, recently, that once the veils of projecting my own inner fears and HOPES onto another are gone, I am able to see a person as they actually wish to present themselves, and from there, perhaps I may have the have chance to see the deeper layers of their self, if they are willing to share them or to open up to them even for their own joy!
People who cause suffering are often caught in a mirage of suffering from their past, and they will inevitably project this onto others, especially those close to them.
Alone, or together with a true soul mate surrounded by other good hearted people, I wish to know myself and be honest and loving to myself and others in whatever way Universe deems useful.
If anyone's actions or intentions are truly destructive, I hope we can love them from afar and wish the growth and a way out of their psychological hell they may be perpetuating for no logical reason...
