Message #29892

[Jitendra Hydonus]

I think specifics work better than generalities Eric. There is scum out there and there are catfish that look for it. Bottom feeders are in abundance. (That’s why I am here with you spending time in Fellowship.) If it points back to us who have created this outcome then I have no disagreement in your assessment. But it helps to have someone point out this with examples otherwise most of us are still blind. That’s why I will tell a friend where and when they have been cold and given others the silence treatment. If their ego recoils and they are not willing to listen it’s time to move on. Some people are defensive and their egos are so sensitive they cannot listen without striking back like a 🐍 snake.

I also have found many people are like psychological antiques. They don’t and will not change. They remain locked into old forms of behavior and thought patterns that constantly resurface in different guises. At some point it helps to identify these symptoms so we can see we are dealing with what Amma called a form of mental illness. Sometimes we are obliged to recognize we have become stagnate in a toxic relationship. The tentacles of these relationships can reach down into our own consciousness and leave us paralyzed to recognize closing one door can open up other more expansive doors for ourselves. As Amma said at the beginning of this thread some people do practice meanness. It is just important to recognize that people do practice meanness when we wonder if we may be responsible for their behaviors.