Message #19051

[Jitendra Hydonus]

hiii
i'd like to exercise healthy relationships and live a balanced life with those i am emotionally involved with.
it is challenging at times
when i am eager i am too dependent. this pulls away from the ability to experience and share bliss in the moment. sometimes i let fear and doubt anchor me. the challenge now is to dissolve and to learn, how to. not say goodbye and let the other live their life freely- and live mine freely-without worry of our standing or constantly seeking the others comfort or delving to much into a persons psych, being judgmental and creating barriers, or making rules that close me off from those spiritual opportunities to grow. hmm im not sure how much sense i make   but i know the things i want to practice. must practice, am taking steps in
and just learning how to be happy for what we share, when we share- and not sweat the times we aren't
because we can experience bliss with or without those we are emotionally involved with. in a healthy relationship, they just add to it
and althought i barely scrape the surface in understanding what you speak of, i am grateful for this thread. and another discussing the deep impressions we share with others.
the heart heheheh has much to understand

i seek harmony and hope to make things work ! but KNOW i must learn patience in order to will these things, and learn to go with the flow.
its interesting to discuss but . . . not much to discuss ! heheh instead i let go ! but yes. good things here *nod* just wanting to share recent endeavors. give thanks for this thread. and find it interesting how some things you share here spark my interest in this moment in time

freedom !   thats what i really want
happiness
but do wish to continue to share love and friendship and kindness

dont stop
patience patience
dont stop
wildflowers in my hair

Eric in this post you mentioned being " judgmental and creating barriers, or making rules that close (us) off from those spiritual opportunities to grow." i believe this is a helpful observation. One of the downfalls of relationships of all sorts is giving ultimatums or setting up rules for relationships. We seldom know what without doubt is right for a relationship. We may have a stronger view of what is right for us but rarely do we know what is right for a relationship since a relationship is dynamic and is a process rather then an end in itself; defined and set in stone. i also think you have a good point about being too eager and how it makes you dependent. Being to eager is quite like chasing a butterfly. If if you catch it there is no enjoyment for the butterfly and so you too find no joy in its captivity. But you may be peaceful and in the moment and suddenly it lands right on you with all its beauty splendor and wonder.