Message #11829

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Sometimes we meet people who show a spiritual interest yet they have some very difficult problems with relationships. They seem to go from one difficult situation to another or they manifest problematic interpersonal skills and seek temporary 'fixes'. We can love these people from a distance otherwise they pull us into their problems.

If we find ourselves emotionally involved with others who are unable or unwilling to give and take in a relationship we need to withdraw and cultivate relationships that work both ways. We can drain our psychic energies otherwise. This is a conclusion i have come to in having close relations with others. i say this because at this point in spiritual direction i have found that time is too short to give energy to relationships that have little or no spiritual basis. i would b interested to know if any of u can relate to what i am saying or can comment.

We often get a glimpse of other peoples character thru those they choose to spend their time with. As much as we may love someone we need to see just what they want out of life from who they choose to associate with. i believe that as spiritual beings we should not continually blame our environment and others for the conditions we find ourselves in. Sometimes those close to us want us to fit into their lives independently of the lifestyles they have chosen for themselves. It is evident that we ourselves create our environment thru our thoughts and choices. We are not victims. We actually create separations or togetherness with others thru the choices we have made in the relationships we make and continue to cultivate with those in our every day life.

Most people have very little comprehension of the fact that even the area we live in, the family we have and the people that come into our lives are a result of prenatal decisions desires and attachments. The post natal choices we make determine future outcomes circumstances and environments. We often forfeit tremendous opportunities for spiritual evolution and advancement because of habits that determine decisions in the present. These are spiritual realizations that have come to me over my life and looking at the choices and results that my friends and i
have made and the grace that has helped me in this important spiritual
lesson.

Jitendra