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« on: Dec 12, 2011 12:12 am »

fair-weather friend    
   
A friend who is only a friend when circumstances are pleasant or profitable. At the first sign of trouble, these capricious, disloyal friends will drop their relationship with you.

It is interesting; people relate different to u in your triumphs as compared to our challenges. It is revealing to see. We often do not change. Only conditions have changed. Yet we can often see many changes in the approaches others take to us when we go thru outward conditions around us. It can be very revealing. Do i really want to excel in a material sense? What r the drawbacks? Being lead astray spiritually because of the flaunting and temptations that others provide? They r very transitory. When friends/love changes because of conditions we realize the conditional nature of fair weathered friends. What is permanent? Can we rely on the friendships we have and to what extent? We find that material challenges r provided for our spiritual benefit when we learn a truer nature of reality and the people around us. Some friendships and love relationships will become stronger and others will fade away. It is the changing nature of maya that helps us see thru the illusions of conditions. Thru these changing conditions we become aware of who really cares and is solid in our relationships and which ones r fleeting. It is all good. Sometimes it is much better to have outward failure if it means inner realizations. Success can often bring many unwanted illusions that lead to disillusionment. Those things that r taken away may b nothing more then a blessing in disguise. Wisdom often necessitates hard knocks in the school house of life.

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« Reply #1 on: Dec 13, 2011 05:56 am »

hi steve i wanted to thank you for this post. it makes a lot of sense and i really appreciate all the wisdom you've been dishing out recently. i'm on my phone so keeping this short. i feel i can relate though(just a lil) and am really glad u decided to share this. ty brotha ! :p : ) bye have a goodone
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« Reply #2 on: Dec 13, 2011 04:57 pm »

hi steve i wanted to thank you for this post. it makes a lot of sense and i really appreciate all the wisdom you've been dishing out recently. i'm on my phone so keeping this short. i feel i can relate though(just a lil) and am really glad u decided to share this. ty brotha ! :p : ) bye have a goodone


My introduction to St. Augustine came in the form of text which was on the back of the order of service for the memorial of a dear friend, whom I've definitely mentioned here before, considering that she was the one who brought me to a path- although it's originally in Spanish, I have sort of translated:

I die but my love does not die. I will love you in heaven as I loved you on earth. Be virtuous..... and don’t let yourselves be overcome by sadness. I am going to Heaven where I wait for you in the midst of the love of God. To those who cry, the most beautiful thing of all is left, the hope to meet in Heaven, and meanwhile, on the earth the memory ..... of life.

L T L

To Live to Learn and all others who have loved without thought of it being returned. There are only tears of joy and gratitude.

A tuning fork resonates to a certain vibration and frequency and so it is with kindred souls. We r often very inspired and compelled by meeting connections from the past. We often feel as though for a moment everything is rite. Like God is so real and he has really intervened to make our life significant thru circumstances and significant relationships. But then we find that perhaps we have rushed in where angels fear to tread. We might have even wondered if we were foolish when relationships turn out to b like something dying within us. We r thrown back on our Selves. Yet if we do not resort to blame we find that life can give us a new understanding. We will pick up the pieces and move on. Life goes thru these transitory states: Birth living and then death. So do relationships.

It is more rare to have solid relationships that transcend time and space; the changes of life. But they r possible. i have seen them and we must always b open to them and not r preconceived notions of how things will turn out. Because life is good even though we sometimes dip into sour milk. If we give love to another-love reciprocates in its own way and time. Perhaps thru the experience we become a little slower and a little wiser.

There is nothing wrong with us. Just to have experienced some love is God's grace. We and those we meet r only capable of expressing a limited nature of God's love and thus we feel the pain of that limitation and separation in between times of experiencing love. The separation is becoming less and love is filling in as we r becoming who we really are.

For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.  ~Corinthians 1 13:12


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The Dance by Tony Arata

Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared 'neath the stars alone
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Holding you I held everything
For a moment wasn't I a king
But if I'd only known how the king would fall
Hey who's to say you know I might have chanced it all

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Yes my life is better left to chance
I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance


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« Reply #3 on: Dec 15, 2011 07:09 am »

yesterday i felt so much love. gods love. and all i could think of was the friends that welcome you back after straying away towards a different path. i wish to do the same for all my friends. to be welcoming and brotherly regardless of where you go or where you come from. a real friendship with genuine characters. this is a solid foundation, for me. this is true happiness. if we separate, so be it. i will be here when you return. with and in love.
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« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2014 07:16 pm »

Friends often help us in self - examination since we rarely can see ourselves objectively. However when friends react to us it does not help us because we see their reaction and not what they are trying to really convey. This is the cause of much misunderstanding, separation and parting. Instead of helping us we see why they were taken out of our lives. Self-control is essential to spiritual progress and being an example to others on the path. If we momentarily loose self control we can easily rectify the situation. But if we choose to rationalize by making excuses it only delays progress and coming together with others.

Recently I have seen friends leave my life who reacted to events and myself. They might have had something important to offer
to the relationship. Instead they choose the line of least resistance and left. At the same time others have come into life. What kind of conclusion would one come to when this happened? Simply that people who have left by their own free will, were best to leave to themselves. They have choose unwise descisions regarding what they have left behind because of their own ego and web of maya they are lost in.
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« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2014 08:07 pm »

The sadness and feeling of betrayal from such a loss, Steve, I find is the hardest part to let go of.

The sadness feels like a reminder of the times when the friendship was so powerful, beautiful and nurturing to both of us.  It feels like a big question mark mixed with an emotional wound, something I want to heal, but why do I try to heal it by asking for the help of the one who caused it?  It is confusing, because they were once so trust-worthy, perhaps when the weather felt breezy, sunny and easy to them...

I need to let go of expecting the one who said "we would be each other's good friend for life" to reach out with love and peace, because they haven't in so long, and have already let me down in a way I never would with any friend in need.

I love them, I wish them well.  I hope there is a valuable lesson they are seeking which will help their evolution.

I'm grateful for the valuable lessons their Love and "fair weatherness" have to teach me.

I'm glad I have this space, at least, to communicate my sorrow and desire to grow stronger and wiser from this disappointing loss.

Thank you Steve (:



This post is about more than just one person, really.  Me, another, and others before them... others who I have yet to meet who may show themselves to be "fair-weathered friends" over time... 

This is a part of Life and Nature which must me acknowledged for what it is, and accepted as a part of God's Holy Universe.

I am grateful to be Alive in this World!!!  And to be able to Love as much as I have, to be Loved as much as I have felt, and to seek reciprocal and unconditional Love now and in the future with ALL MY HEART!!!

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« Reply #6 on: May 16, 2014 07:35 am »

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« Reply #7 on: May 16, 2014 11:25 pm »

Thank You for sharing that video clip zap.

Those concepts of Gurdjieff do resonate with me as very truthful.
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« Reply #8 on: May 17, 2014 12:51 am »

I'm Brock.
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« Reply #9 on: May 17, 2014 01:19 am »

Welcome back Brock  Smiley
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« Reply #10 on: May 17, 2014 01:44 am »

I'm Brock.

You make this place exciting! Enjoy your sense of humor!
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« Reply #11 on: Aug 16, 2014 12:24 pm »

Why does friendship and love often vanish? Why does love have the nasty habit of disappearing over nite? Paramahansa Yogananda has this observation;  "Do not poison friendship by demand and compulsion and wrong familiarity; or by discourtesy, or harsh speech, or mental cruelty." That is what he says not to do. What does he say to do? "Friendship consists in becoming increasingly useful in every way (materially and spiritually) to your friends. Therefore. keep unceasingly developing if you want to be a good friend, or to inspire friends or to receive others as your friends."  
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