Message #10276

[Jitendra Hydonus]

Hi Eric (hope u do not mind calling u by name)We have gained an amount of friendship together and i would like to chill with u also. i have had a chance to do that with friends lately and i am so grateful. i see u have had some issues with women as well. i think the most important part of a relationship of any kind is communication. When communication breaks down we find that the relationship itself breaks down. Other than that we need to recognize that defining a relationship in conventional terms is useless. We need to be creative and find an approach that will meet the needs of those involved.

Sometimes we do have to let go. There is a time and place for everything. i just want to say this about the relationship u mentioned with a woman; if u really feel that u have made some wrong turns with her and she is still willing to communicate with u, there is still the possibility of letting her know that u have made some mistakes. i think it is important to recognize that it takes two people to have a relationship. Those two people must recognize that they as separate entities cannot b always right. Besides even if they/we r right; Is it right to b wrong towards someone else? Humiliation is just ego in disguise. If someone loves u they will not try to humiliate u. It is more likely that both of you have made mistakes. Unless both of u can recognize this fact; it is very difficult to carry on. In the end u can only love someone to the extent that they r willing to let u. If they show little or no love towards u it is better to leave them behind because for those who love~love will always manifest in some other way. This we must have faith in because despite the pain involved in separation it is true.

Jitendra