As long as in love there is "you" and "me", love is not fully kindled.
Bowl of Saki, November 27, by Hazrat Inayat Khan
Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:
There are three stages of morals. The first stage is the moral of reciprocity. This moral is natural to the one who sees the difference between himself and another, who recognizes every man as such and such.
The second stage is the law of beneficence, where man, recognizing himself as an entity separate from others and recognizing others as distinct entities themselves, yet sees a cord of connection running through himself and all, and finds himself as a dome in which rises an echo of good and evil; and in order to have a good echo he gives good for good and good for evil.
But the third stage is the moral of renunciation, where the difference of 'mine' and 'thine' and the distinction of 'I' and 'you' fade away in the realization of the one Life that is within and without, beneath and beyond; and that is the meaning of the verse in the Bible, 'In Him we live, and move, and have our being.'
from
https://wahiduddin.net/mv2/III/III_III_5.htmAfter an honest assessment, I believe I am entering the second stage described above. Still the beginning stages of the second, where I struggle with Ego and with doing what's right. What stage do you find yourself in?