There is a certain grasping that comes, I notice, with desire, that feels unpleasant.
At times when a friend has offered me something they did not want or value, my
expression of appreciation and thanks then propelled a change of heart on the part
of the friend, and they make a new decision to keep what would have been, a "gift."
The undesirable has suddenly become full of value due to another's finding it desirable!
But then on the other hand, it seems almost a psychological law to want what one doesn't
or cannot have. This comes to play at times in affairs of the heart... if only we could all
be open giving hearts! 
nomaste serena
at a certain level of consciousness i see what you r talking about. people wanting what they can't have. in the fairest of the heart there comes a recognition that our own worth and kindness
exceeds the worth of the coveted person. this happens when we live in the consciousness
of giving and acceptance. it may appear we covet someone when indeed what we are doing is giving love in return for coldness anger or sadness in another.
we may see something valuable in someone else and not give up on them.
this does not mean we dot not appreciate what we do have.
as Khan says. when the veil of understanding is liifted from material objects and people
we gain a total different perspective.
Jitendra
