CRITICISM AND COMPLAINING~Turiyananda

[Jitendra Hydonus]

CRITICISM AND COMPLAINING

Master said that there are two cancers that eat at the foundation of the spiritual life: criticism of others and complaints.

Complaints are for the weak. Brother said he writes his complaints on a piece of paper, signs it and throws it away.

Criticism is pride. Pride has destroyed more spiritual qualities than anything else.

Whenever you think something negative about another, you magnetize or draw that quality to yourself.

Take care not to criticize weak individuals.

Criticism is a spiritual crime! Daya Ma told him that he was deathly allergic to bees because he had been so critical of others in a previous life & had wallowed in others' filthy ways. It was all still in his subconscious.

You need to use mental Kung-Fu. As soon as you criticize someone, pray for that person and beg forgiveness.

[yoshi]

i monitor my thoughts all the time....if i happen to catch a criticism or complaint forming i correct it....

it can be difficult to catch them before they form in the mind.....it takes constant monitoring....lots of practice....but soon one will notice that they come less and less.....

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(((Love&Hugs&OM)))
yoshi

[Jitendra Hydonus]

i monitor my thoughts all the time....if i happen to catch a criticism or complaint forming i correct it....

it can be difficult to catch them before they form in the mind.....it takes constant monitoring....lots of practice....but soon one will notice that they come less and less.....

<3<3<3
(((Love&Hugs&OM)))
yoshi

For me criticism comes from feeling hurt inside. It is way of feeling dignity when you feel you have been defeated. It's a way of saying i'm O.K. though i may not measure up to someones way of looking at love. It's a momentary reprieve from the pain. Nothing more. It takes someone of importance or someone that we have given importance that affects us to want to jab at them from the sidelines. Otherwise; why the concern or energy wastage? Everything else is trivial and the mark of triviality weighs heavy on the sleepers that are novices in this school of life. But for us; Inside we really know what we are doing but it is like ingesting pain relief when  the outlet for relief seems unavailable.

It doesn't take much reflection too see whats behind those who care and those who seek attention in the most convoluted ways but still just can't seem to get enough. It is part of the knotty, tangled road we have layed out for us to disengage ourselves from. It's a form of ego; the trickster once again working to derail us from the spiritual path. Although mixed with it and behind it all is this constant unquenchable desire for love that no human can be expected to give to us. We can never expect others to love us the way we want to be loved but we still show are needy nature when it is not forthcoming and we complain and criticize. Many times it is an expression of perverted love. It takes some human understanding to recognize it but those who are perceptive can see the little hurt child. The boy or girl in us all. Not too many things turn out the way we expect them. But i don't want to get hung up on that either. 

J