The need to be right

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

I’m understanding more and more in life how the need to be correct or right in relationships stifles the flow of interpersonal relationships and can in fact contribute to mental illness. There are so many ways at looking at reality that it is quite dangerous to take a view that we are right about issues unless we have a certainty in our convictions. However even then we must be prepared to face the consequences of facing others with different views. Relationships in which one person assumes a role of having the correct opinion or having the role of being critical of others requires a lot of processing to make sure that their position is lock tight and that one should look up to them as an authority on other issues that continue to come up in any relationship.

If a view appears to work well with someone else and is not affecting us or hurting others with unkindness why not just let them be with their differences? Challenges come in relationships when we have expectations of others or we desire that our own interests be met. When others have similar demands we are also put off by such ‘needs’ of others because they put constraints and demand attention from us. It may be important to recognize how much the need to be right is an expression of ego and limits spontaneous interaction with others.

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steve your recent insight is making the child in me jump up and down with joy! im so happy for you. this is a joyous war cry.

we are collectively witnessing and experiencing this in mass! we can see it when we have a perceived medium of authority(an illusion) declare itself as RIGHT. it blows my mind. our news, mainstream, speak word for word in rhytm. it's because they are paid to parrot particular talking points. so here we have one form of manipulation seeking to control another. this very particular example is from reporters in the used-to-be main stream saying trump supporters need to be "deprogrammed."

these are their words! can you see how your observations on a personal level reflect our societal karma?
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i've experienced this on a personal level too, where a friends need to be right has evolved into borderline personality disorder and is the reason for our falling out. by gods grace we are both saved! loved! beautiful!

these are all lessons before our great exit!

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

Another observation here; I’ve found that people who ‘need’ to be right often have a mechanical, robotic approach and response to people and situations. This is because they have given up spontaneity in a trade for fixed views about themselves and others around them. There is often a deep insecurity about change and renewing their views.

steve your recent insight is making the child in me jump up and down with joy! im so happy for you. this is a joyous war cry….can you see how your observations on a personal level reflect our societal karma?
🙂
i've experienced this on a personal level too, where a friends need to be right has evolved into borderline personality disorder and is the reason for our falling out. by gods grace we are both saved! loved! beautiful!

these are all lessons before our great exit!

What happens on the macrocosm also manifests on the microcosm. We are all looking for that sweet spot that streams from our soul and gives us happiness. That experience when everything just flows and we witness the beauty and feel the ecstasy of the moment. Sometimes we recognize it happening with wonderful people that elevate our lives including friends. It may hit us like a cool breeze on a hot summer day. A ray of hope thru the cloudy sky. An expansive awareness in the evening stars at nite. One thing is for certain. Meditation opens all doors to these momentary experiences!

Sometimes we can just coast when we hear other people getting defensive or justifying their actions or trying to prove their point of view. There is a freedom in floating above that type of ego.
If we vibrate on the same frequency which is high C we also explore and resonate with ever new joy!