Abusive Behavior; Recognizing it in ourselves and others

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

What is abusive behavior? I see it as being condescending and unjustifiably angry with others. Using caustic and sarcastic language with others. I decided to look it up to see if I was on target;

https://www.yourtango.com/experts/marni-feuerman/signs-abusive-relationship

1. Humiliating or embarrassing you

2. Constantly putting you down

3. Subjecting you to hypercriticism

4. Refusing to communicate or giving you the silent treatment

5. Ignoring or excluding you

6. Having extramarital affairs

7. Displaying provocative behavior with someone of the opposite sex

8. Use of sarcasm and an unpleasant tone of voice at your expense

9. Unreasonable jealousy

10. Extreme moodiness

11. Making mean-spirited jokes or constantly making fun of you

12. Saying, "I love you, but ..."

13. Saying things like, "If you don't _____, I will_____"

14. Attempts at domination and control

15. Withholding sex or affection

16. Subjecting you to guilt trips

17. Making everything your fault

18. Isolating you from friends and family

19. Using money to control you

20. Constant calling or texting you when you aren't together

21. Threatening to commit suicide if you leave

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

When we see some of these qualities manifesting in relationships we can only move on and recognize God is helping us learn detachment in all circumstances because nothing is truly lasting in our relationships with others. Until we have the perspective of divine consciousness we will be unable to know the karmic debts and experiences we have had with others to know why we go thru such experiences. It is best to recognize that God knows what he is doing though we may not. We should appreciate all circumstances to the best of our ability and that even the people that are taken out of our lives are for our ultimate benefit. I have actually looked back in my past and now recognize, in retrospect, that being left alone worked to my spiritual benefit. Although often we complain about such situations when we are experiencing them, they may be just what we need for our spiritual progress.