I do not think you are going in circles here Eric. I have some insights of my own about your remarks. You mentioned not having the same vibe as your family. I would suggest to you this. U may not always have the same views as your family. We are often drawn into family situations because of similar karmic backgrounds and desires that are working out with our family. As we live longer, it takes a while, but those with similar spiritual backgrounds become aware of their true family-their spiritual family. They then slowly gravitate towards that family and over the years find their entanglements to their genetic family untangling.
We have been placed with others who need us and often we need them for a time. It becomes evident when we surrender to the reality of where we find ourselves and that others may not let us into their personal realities for their own ignorance and because we may not be able to satisfy their current dark desires. However occasionally we may notice the significance, similar vibration and the meaning of the relationships we find ourselves surrounded by.