OK cool, I just get the feeling like someone's always giving you the shaft. Well that's how it reads with my limited intuition.
No this is not my concern. l ways think its best to give those we r just getting to know--- the benefit of the doubt--- that is what i always hope to do in improving my own attractiveness. What i have found is that some people have so much baggage they carry with them that they automatically think people they meet and know r part of that baggage.
We must make our decisions based on time. We may find ourselves with many friends and acauaintances and also many responsibiliites. So---for me--- it is not a matter of complaining about others and what they do but rather it is a matter of trying to understand who really appreciates us and finding time to spend quality hours with them. There r many such people---thank God--so there is really no need to complain!
In fairness to your observation above.... often we find that we r making an effort to understand others and they no longer make a comparable effort at working at the relationship. When this happens we may b fortunate to have attracted wonderful people who do appreciate us and show a concern. I believe that many of us can relate to that.
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