It is wise to see all things, and yet to turn our eyes from all that should be overlooked.
Bowl of Saki, March 20, by Hazrat Inayat KhanCommentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan
It is to the great disadvantage of the fault-finding man that he wishes to find fault with all he sees, for if he is not able to throw away immediately the undesirable impression received, which is not always so easy, he begins in due time to reproduce what he has received. ... If man only knew what harm is brought to one's being by letting any undesirable impression enter the heart, he also would adopt the above-mentioned policy of the wise, to overlook.
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https://wahiduddin.net/mv2/XIII/XIII_20.htmThe aim of the Sufi, therefore, is to see and yet not be interested. ... Those who trouble about others' thoughts and interest themselves in others' actions most often lose their time and blunt their inner sight. Those who go farther, their moral is to overlook all they see on their way, as their mind is fixed on the goal. ... The best thing is to see and rise above, never to halt on the way, and it is this attitude that, if constantly practiced, will lead man safely to his soul's desired goal.
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https://wahiduddin.net/mv2/XIII/XIII_5.htmThere is a tendency which manifests itself and grows in a person who is advancing spiritually, and that tendency is overlooking. At times this tendency might appear as negligence, but in reality negligence is not necessarily overlooking. Negligence is most often not looking. Overlooking may be called in other words rising beyond these things: one has to rise in order to overlook; the one who stands beneath life could not overlook, even if he wanted to. Overlooking is a manner of graciousness; it is looking and at the same time not looking. It is seeing and not taking notice of what is seen. It is being hurt or harmed or disturbed by something and yet not minding it. It is an attribute of nobleness of nature. It is the sign of souls who are tuned to a higher key.
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https://wahiduddin.net/mv2/VIII/VIII_2_11.htmWhenever we see that goodness is lacking, we may add to it from our own heart and so complete the nobility of human nature. This is done by patience, tolerance, kindness, forgiveness. The lover of goodness loves every little sign of goodness. He overlooks the faults and fills up the gaps by pouring out love and supplying that which is lacking. This is real nobility of soul.
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https://wahiduddin.net/mv2/IX/IX_9.htm ~~~ It is wise to see all things, and yet to turn our eyes from all that should be overlooked.
A wise man once told me that you do not find fault in your Beloved. The moment you count her flaws she is no longer your Beloved. I think I am beginning to understand what he means.
