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I’ve met a lot of people, and find that people generally  fall under one of two different categories, either irritable and complaining or happy, appreciative and grateful. Oh yes, I know that people are unique and have many qualities that set them apart from each other. And we all go through changes and different circumstances that change our attitudes. But I’m talking about generalities here. There are people you just are not able to please. Things are just never quite good enough for them. And there are people that show appreciation, support and gratitude. At times we need to take a break from those close to us or let them have a break from us. Over familiarity and consistent over exposure can cause people to loose their respect   and enjoyment for each other. Sometimes whether I like it or not; I know I have to give others space from my perspective and personality. Just making some observations here and wonder if someone else will add their own.

It's the same in my work environment. I am surrounded by women. All of whom voice their frustrations to me- about each other, about customers. At one point I was considered an equal with one of the ladies there, she was only there a little less than a year compared to me. We are both the, "right hand man"(or woman) for the store owner. We share almost equal responsibility. But now I get the feeling I annoy her. I feel her hatred sometimes and it would pull me into negative attitude. I am overcoming it by deciding not to allow the irritability of another to stop me from treating people with kindness. Just because one is ignorant of their own behavior, does not mean I need to drown in it or worse- lash out to others who haven't a clue.

We are forced to work together, and so in this instance, all I can do is work on my self. I have made the decision that I am not going to become angry. If I do I am going to remove the undesirable thought and focus on a greater truth. Like serving the customers that walk in and out- and keeping my self busy. I have decided that I will try to become so much better at the job that I won't have time to think twice about someones off-putting behavior. I pray for this person, and realize they still use me when they need me. And so I won't let my Ego or emotions about it get in the way.

And, if the situation does not improve, I understand I am seeking a career that pays more so as to secure financial independence either way. This is the year I gain financial independence, and secure a winning attitude. The obstacles are there to help me grow.

A life experience of Kashi Moni: Lahiri Mahasaya’s Wife

I will confess a sin which I committed against my guru-husband. Some months after my initiation, I began to feel forlorn and neglected. One morning Lahiri Mahasaya entered this little room to fetch an article; I quickly followed him. Overcome by violent delusion, I addressed him scathingly.

“You spend all your time with the disciples. What about your responsibilities for your wife and children? I regret that you do not interest yourself in providing more money for the family.”

The master glanced at me for a moment, then lo! he was gone. Awed and frightened, I heard a voice resounding from every part of the room:

“It is all nothing, don’t you see? How could a nothing like me produce riches for you?”

“Guruji,” I cried, “I implore pardon a million times! My sinful eyes can see you no more; please appear in your sacred form.”

“I am here.” This reply came from above me. I looked up and saw the master materialize in the air, his head touching the ceiling. His eyes were like blinding flames. Beside myself with fear, I lay sobbing at his feet after he had quietly descended to the floor.

“Woman,” he said, “seek divine wealth, not the paltry tinsel of earth. After acquiring inward treasure, you will find that outward supply is always forthcoming.” He added, “One of my spiritual sons will make provision for you.”

My guru’s words naturally came true; a disciple did leave a considerable sum for our family.

I came back here to provide an update to my situation. You see, it's not the first time I've had this- and time again I am proven that it's not me as to why this person is upset and expressing negatively. It really has more to do with what's going on in their personal life. And so, learning not to take things personal has provided a victorious experience. And I believe, setting the intention as I have this morning- made for a good day. Even the woman I was uncertain about seemed less in her head, more present and even friendly. Perhaps the idea is- where do we want to place our energies? Where do we want to reside? And a further question, on a psychic level, are we contributing to a persons negative thinking by wallowing in similar behavior around them? Like entertaining thoughts that don't need to be entertained?

Though my situation is not the same as yours Steve, it was holding on to good intentions- practicing kindness and not taking another's ignorant behavior personal that has aided in the transformation of a better experience for all parties.

I would also like to add if you think distance is best, sometimes it's best to honor that. My good friend LaurenLoo has asked for some distance while she figures things out. In the end, we aren't mean to please everyone. Sometimes we're fulfilling a role as predetermined by another persons internal drama. I have had many people walk away, and I my self have had to walk away from a friend in order to feel some type of peace. As long as we're doing the work(meditating and practicing kindness) God might help make things clear. We aren't perfect in our endeavors, but we try to be gentle with those we care about- and careful with those we don't.

I wonder what you think of this Eric and how it may play into this thread……

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A comment has also been added regarding this topic:
How much our we exerting control?

Thanks,
Steve Hydonus

It is remarkable noticing some people’s reactions that become irritated and frustrated. They do not notice they are feeling under the weather and raise their  voices or make remarks that show their unhappiness. Isn’t it nice when we are around happy people and able to avoid unhappy ones?

Don’t we all see somewhat through the fog of our own illusions? How can any of us really know what a person is when we and the other person do not even know our true SELF? We can only explore the possibilities to the best of our awakened and expanding consciousness; Hoping we are on to something that can help us all. In the process we can then see as if in a mirror at our reflection and learn from what is presented to us, as we gain more insight. More insight into ourselves and others who are presented to us, as they are by a higher force.  🙏