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What is your advice on how to control other people's anger?

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No advice Brock but I know what I do.

1. Tell the person you are leaving now and we'll talk another time when you feel better.

2. If possible choose other friends because you cannot control other people and their behavior.

Thanks Steve. I just put that as a joke. You are right. You can't control other people's anger!

You might humour other's people anger though, unless it becomes impossible by the frequency of the outbursts

Some people that get angry don't have a sense of humor. They are not humored  and your sense of humor may even be misinterpreted. It depends on the person but I have found that it is better to just be silent if you cannot escape their presence.

Steve, I actually I meant the verb to humour in the sense to comply with the humor or mood of in order to soothe, cheer up, etc

I was with a friend last night. Speaking of angry friends; she told me that you're the type of person that will still be friends with somebody that has been angry with you. I had to give this some thought. What I recognize is quite often when people are angry they say they never want to see you again or they say don't write me don't text me don't say anything to me. They may even threaten to call the police or actually call them because of their anger but then later on they call back or they respond to you as though nothing happened or as though they were somehow justified in their behavior. They may even apologize and then at a later time get angry again or abuse us in some other way. I believe that often people do not recognize the meaness of the mind and their behavior.

We may care about such people but may have to give them plenty of space because of their uncontrolled anger and outbursts. They will blame anything and everyone around them for their anger accept themselves. What causes such anger? Bipolar behavior, alcohol, substance abuse, emotional turmoil, not having things go according to how we would like them to - controlling behavoir, and a lack of ability to self reflect or see things the way other people see them. Often when people are angry like this they will not even listen or are unable to hear what another person is saying. They will keep talking or communicating without recognizing that communication is a two way street and the person they are with is actually trying to communicate with them. We may also find that they choose partners to mirror and reflect their anger.

What can we do about such anger that may be directed towards us? I believe the best thing to do is to excuse yourself or stop talking to such people for a time and give them plenty of space and time to explore their own behavior.Even though we may care about such people and love them. Their abuse will continue unless we separate ourselves from them long enough to let them reflect.

Jitendra