nice introspection. it is through the attracting or repulsing actions of others we recognize a familiarity within... our desire for freedom is the soul cry not to be ruled by ignorance or maybe, to live in an inspiring beauty. truly only god is a suitable judge for each individual and so, what we think we see is to help us make a desired change within. if we are successful, if we can overcome our ignorance, there'd be no concern of what someone else does or doesn't do.
for amma to consider us her children she takes a loving perspective to us, this walking dead you've described... since we are not masters, i don't see the harm in distancing or being open to a wildly new perspective, change is a way of life... i only caution so you'd hold on to hope and forgiveness, have loving thoughts for those suffering and all who have entered in the field of your consciousness.
you've said it before, this life is a world of mirrors.
Because of the limitations of time places on us all in this dimension we all have to manage our time. As we decide what we can do in a specificities time frame and with the recourses available to us we make comparisons and describe our comparisons with descriptive terminology.