Message #18725

[kingfisher111]

Very good advice Steve.  Probably the best advice.

And yet, still not so easy to follow...

I have one close friend who I got into an argument with a couple of months ago, and we didn't talk until last week.  However, I apologized to him for the ways he felt I was unfair to him, but he did not apologize for anything on his part, despite how full of anger he was towards me, that only upset us both.  I pointed out to him that he's exploded with anger towards other people close to him before and to strangers, but he said in all the cases I mentioned, his anger was justified.

He has a very thoughtful and loving side to him, which is why I've been friends with him, but if he can't apologize for the way he aggressively spoke to me, it makes me feel uncomfortable and not want to talk to him, because I'm afraid it will happen again.