I am learning that when it happens, it's better to recognize the unspoken reality than to try and coerce a desired one. I am so grateful you bumped this thread. Please know what I am saying may not be relatable to your revelations- but that at a later time, it may make sense. There are three sides to every story?
Lately I've had to distance myself from a friend. I called him and left a message, explaining that I do not want to hang out or get together at this time. I told him I wish him well. I did this because I understand the silent treatment is not something I'v enjoyed- so if I am choosing to end a relationship, I will at least try to verbalize. I also realize though, sometimes that doesn't always work. And people want to argue about who'se view is the correct one. Rather than get into who is right or wrong, it's better to walk away- but to maintain the course with our own ideals. Practicing good charity and kindness.
I left this friendship because I felt like there was years of toxic behavior that did not align with my personal beliefs. I saw an alpha personality dominating my own and it was not something I enjoyed. I wish my friend peace, and I wish to live my life free from his influence.
Thanks Eric and I most likely will return here at a later date. I have witnessed people want to argue or may be on an anger or tantrum trajectory that is difficult to shake. It is best to just let them spout out or if you know they will most likely calm down …talk to them then. There are as many ways as there are people for the way relationships dissipate and our approach is, and response will always be, a factor for our spiritual development. If we didn’t ‘pass’ the test my experience is that it will reoccur in another guise. Some of us have specifically asked that our lives be guided by a Master. So this will be just another lesson in our development.
The alpha personality dominating factor you mention here may easily be a topic for another thread since it involves so many factors. Everyone has a reason of there own for giving others the silence treatment and personality conflicts are probably the most common of all of them. Although this is a factor I have realized in others not attempting to change themselves; they may often see you in a subordinate or inferior position and may never have the ability to see the relationship in any other way. Sometimes we must leave others in their own self circumscribed boxes if we no longer can fit their descriptions. It is important to recognize that people try to put us in their own groupings because of their own mindsets and prejudices.
