You know, words are so powerful - more than most of us realize, I suspect. They resonate and last - sometimes for years. Some people let the words fly based on a passing emotion, especially when angry. Later, when they realize how the power of those words may have impacted the other person, they might apologize sincerely... but the sting is still there. It lasts. Do that enough times, and the other person might believe in the power of the sting more than the power of the apology and stop responding. The origin of the anger and the resentment depends on the rapport of the people. Could be a clash of personalities. Could be projections from childhood! Could be someone is overly sensitive. Could be someone is not sensitive enough. This is why it's better to assume innocence. Might have nothing to do with you. Might have everything to do with you. Just because we believe we are spiritual doesn't mean we never behave like jerks! Lol.
On the other topic, I find that on the web, when one invites a stranger to correspond privately they sometimes feel at liberty to say completely inappropriate things - especially men. Declarations of romantic love! Unasked for advice based on not much! Temper tantrums, etc. For some - not all - there is a sense of instant intimacy that is mostly imagined. I don't like that. Getting to know people takes time. Not saying you personally would do such things, but it's sort of a habit I've developed. I prefer to get to know people out in the open first. I suspect I lived in Victorian times once - lol! Am kind of old fashioned.
The owl is beautiful - like you said, the eyes are very human-like. Sensitive. There is something lonely about it. No, not lonely, raw. Do you know who painted it? The colors are washed out. The focus is the eyes. I think you nailed it in your description. I see the same things.
Personally i have never seen myself in the lite u r portraying. So it is bit hard for me to relate. i had to think about it for a while... to b honest with myself. However, like u and others here on the forum; i have had to know how to behave as people leave my life and i leave their life. Which is quite a different matter from getting to know someone.
Declarations of love have always been mutual and a sense of intimacy arose over time. Or acceptance of different feelings for one another emerged and were recognized. So any words that were said came much later after i had known someone for sometime. That in some ways is much more difficult then finding out some one is fresh from the beginning. Because it often takes time to know and develop a recognition of peoples expectations of you and your needs from them.... finally u become aware of what other people---that are close--- have wanted from you for sometime but you may not have recognized it.... Or what u may want out of someone else and u may not b able to get.
Words can increasingly b painful when we find we cannot fulfill someone elses' desires or spiritual needs. Words can also b increasingly difficult when we find out that other people cannot fulfill our desires and spiritual needs. Meeting someone in private and finding out what they want is much better in some ways. To give and example: i remember women who i spent time with who at one point early along came rite out and told me that they wanted romance with me. If they hadn't been outspoken i would have led them on the whole time---not intentionally though--It was because we spent private time together that feelings were exposed .... private feelings towards me. Also on the flip side if i had never spent private time with others i would not express what i was feeling and known where we stood in our relationship. So in this sense i would say i am much different then u. Which is O.K.
i am not sure that being 'Victorian' -- as u put it-- has anything to do with developing relationships for me. It is something i haven't encountered in someone else--- that's all.
Have i been around 'swingers' all my life? i don't think so. LOL
It is at these times... later on in a relationship that the choice of words and our attitudes in dissolving relationships play a key role in the aftermath of parting. It is very awkward knowing something that at one time was very spontaneous and inspiring has become discouraging, and now lacks luster and enthusiasm. But most relationships have a time span and what actually lasts thru our life and many incarnations is something to really b treasured. Most relationships are unable to withstand the test of time. That has been my experience. There r those that r with us for the long haul! i would say-- for the most part-- they recognize our true purpose together: That is to help one another and serve each other as we return homeward.
