Message #17576

[Jitendra Hydonus]

i have never been married yet i have a family; My spiritual family. i have met many people in my life who vow never to marry again and seem to be very happy for it. They most likely would not be close to me as friends if they were married so i am very happy that they are not because they have more time to spend with God and also with me. i have found that most times people who get very close to one person separate from or loose many of their significant friends. There is also usually a lot of possessiveness and jealousy as a result on the part of those who are bound together. Personally i feel that if i was to have married those i was close with i would have made a critical mistake in my life and God has sparred me that.

Marriage life is not out of the question for many of us. Yet perhaps we have our reasons for not getting married and we may have not found that very special someone that we feel we want to make a life long commitment to. Having been in SRF for years i have also found that monks recommended changing our relationships when they are no longer functional. Why would someone want to subject themselves to living a life with someone that they have no common interests in? Especially if they find someone that would make them happy and help their spiritual life.

i find that relationships evolve in my life. Many people have come back in my life recently and i can explore those past encounters in new and meaningful way. It would b very difficult to do this if i were married.

We often grow apart from those who are close to us but later we are able to take up a relationship and see it differently. i have friends that feel this way and we feel we were drawn together from past life associations. As we learn to perfect friendship through are our friendship we are finding the greatest friend of them all-God.